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writes:I am recently in love. He says he loves me very much however doesnt want to say or post anything about that as he thinks it's like flaunting it in front of ex-girlfriends faces and doesnt want to hurt them. I feel he is more sensative to their feelings than to mine. Should he tell the world he is in love or should he be sensative to his EX's?
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reader, teeluv +, writes (21 November 2007):
teeluv is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all. It makes much more sense now. I suppose I would also not want to jump into yelling it to the world since it is so new and I know we both need to be sure. I'm not one to fall quickly and foolishly, I protect my heart with steele doors. *hugs*
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): It all depends on how long you two have been together. If it is a matter of weeks then i can understand him be a bit hesitant because if it all goes wrong then he will look daft, not you. But if you have been going out together for months then he should be telling the world and stuff the exs!!! Is has nothing to do with them what you two do, so, yes i think after a few months then the world should be told.
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reader, TomWilkinson  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 There's also the exes to think about, I've had exes who the second I ention a new gf / love, they can become aggravated and generally quite nasty towards me, he could be worried this will happen
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (20 November 2007):
 That all depends. Were you the one he started seeing while he was still with the ex? If so, it could be based on guilt. If not, then I wonder how long they've been apart? Has he allowed sufficient time to heal from the break up, or are you the rebound girl? There can be many reasons for his reaction, including the length of your own involvement with him. If you've only been seeing each other a couple of months, I wouldn't panic just yet. He may just want to be sure about the two of you before he shows outward displays of affection. Men are frequently more guarded about this sort of thing, regardless of an ex. Perhaps if you give the relationship another 6 months, you'll see things change a bit. Good luck
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reader, bigbenlondon +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Well I think that the ex-girlfriend thing may be a bit of an excuse. He might be feeling apprehensive about telling people just yet, not that he doesnt love you but he might just need a bit of time before he feels comfortable saying anything.
Perhaps he has had a bad experience in the past or is just being cautious, either way if its all a recent thing, give it a bit of time enjoy the love and when he feels ready to tell the world he will!
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