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anonymous
writes:My friends all think a guy should last an hour in bed, but my bf and i dont. We were both virgins and lost it to one another, and we are still getting use to it so therefore he cums quickly. Do you have any proof that this is a normal thing, and my friends are just sluts who have slept around with several older guys so therefore they last longer?
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (11 July 2012):
 Even in my best years, an hour of fornication was impossible. I agree with others that foreplay can and sometimes "should" go on a good long time - maybe as much as 30 to 45 minutes or so. But my experiences of getting a woman "off" typically begins with a maximum of 15 minutes of kissing and fondling, followed by five to ten minutes of cunnilingus (oral stimulation for her) - then maybe five minutes of intercourse.
Her orgasms usually begin during the oral stimulation, and then, many women have continued having one or more orgasms during the intercourse. Those times are maximums, I think, because couples who are very familiar with each other, and who have developed a good sexual relationship, should know how to please each other in about a half-hour or so. The actual fornication and a man's release typically occurs anywhere from a minute to possibly five minutes if he's good at holding back.
I think that the amount of time involved varies, and sometimes "quickies" can also be mutually satisfying. Couples can learn to push-the-right-buttons to please each other's sexual release fairly quickly, but I do agree that intimacy should also include lot's of time cuddling, kissing (sometimes), foreplay and more both before and after the actual sex.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (11 July 2012):
 An hour? That would be...tiresome and painful, to be honest. 10-15 minutes is perfectly acceptable, and I personally prefer even shorter, intense sessions. Over an hour I'd hope to please at least four partners. Anything less is a waste of time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2012): they must mean an hour with foreplay and afterplay.
There was some study done where 12 minutes was considered the average "ideal" for both men and women for the actual penetrative sex to male orgasm.
My wife does not orgasm from intercourse and likes me to cum fast and go again. My ex had more orgasms and I would hold out for up to 20 minnutes in many cases so she could have a few. Every woman is different, as is every man. Most men could hold on for an hour, but that would get awfully tormenting if he was pent up and it was the first go-round.
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reader, daletom +, writes (10 July 2012):
Though some folks claim to have done it, and you can find books and web pages that try to teach the technique, penis-in-vagina stroking for an hour (or even 30 minutes) will probably leave both of you feeling sore and raw. For a long session, my wife and I MUCH prefer two or even three couplings with full intercourse (my ejaculation into her vagina) rather than one long extended coupling. Two releases into her was common in our twenties, and the second time lasted longer - giving her easier, and more intense, orgasms. At your ages, it should be fairly easy for you two to develop that pattern of lovemaking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2012): An hour of intercourse is unusual OP, an hour of the complete session of foreplay etc is pretty normal.
Your friends are full of shit or having bad sex with guys who find it hard to cum with them. That's not a good thing by the way. If that's the impression they get from sleeping around then that's not a goo thing for them because that's not normal and the reasons for a guy lasting longer than normal are almost never good.
Girl is too loose, is just laying there like a sack of potatos, is not really that attractive to him, he's drunk etc. the list goes on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2012): No that's just silly. me and my boyfriend don't last that long maybe 20 mintues tops and it's perfect how it is. Just because you're friends think it that doesn't mean it's true, do they have any experience themselves? because they could just be saying stuff to seem "cool" at the end of the day the timing doesn't matter as long as you both enjoy it, but if me and my partner lasted that long I would probably end up getting sore. Just take your time and maybe spend a while on foreplay first.
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (10 July 2012):
 Oh good god, an hour? Sweetie, your friends are delusional. I've been with three men and not one lasted at hour. Usally between 10mins to a half hour for actual sex, but that was after they got used to sex. Of course it's going to be quicker at first!
I know one person whose bf lasted about an hour usually and she hated it because by the end she was just exhausted. The first time they had sex he lasted FOUR hours. She thought it was miserably long.
Don't sweat it, you're normal :)
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reader, IamJess +, writes (10 July 2012):
 No, of course all guys aren't meant to last an hour.
Thats not normal, your friends are probably trying to brag that they apparently have better sex life then you or trying to put it across that way, and that they've had better sex then you've experienced.
No way can guys last that long, either you don't turn them on or there just not interested.
Don't be worried, just be aware that they're obviously being bitchy.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 July 2012):
 Last an hour as in an hour of thrusting during intercourse?
0h hell no!
that would be boring and hurt after a while.. ugh...
I've never had a man last that long... not with just thrusting or a blow job...
now the entire session from get naked and get into bed can last close to an hour.. but that's with foreplay, oral, after play and snacking (the after sex cigarette is replaced by ice cream....)
but the actual act of intercourse... for me 20 minutes is pushing it and most men I know last 5-10 minutes max...
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