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writes:Is it normal for a guy who wants fwb to be persistent ?. He says he thinks i am really good looking, but i don't think i am that attractive, to be honest. I'm also a shy person, so i don't understand why he doesn't want an fwb who is more outgoing. We haven't had sex with each other yet. He has been trying to for months though lol. I'm surprised he hasn't given up. We have met up a few times just for a chat, but he is still trying to sleep with me, and he calls and texts me a lot, and when i don't speak to him for ages, he says he thinks i have fallen out with him, or that he has scared me off, and that he has missed talking to me. He also says that he wants me to trust him, and that he doesn't want to upset me. What do you think of this ?.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (28 December 2011):
 I think he's a persistent fellow.... AND that when you succumb to his advances (and put out for him) that he will be very happy, indeed. How long to you intend to hold out?????Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011): You mention that you do not think you are that attractive.This could be a notable statement. If YOU do not think much of yourself in this department, this FWB seeker may be hoping you have low self esteem and that you are easy pickings.He may be pursuing you for FWB because he thinks he has a chance at an easy deal.It is not about your looks, caring for you or respect for you. He wants to see what he can get from you.What makes you beautiful is knowing your own self worth. Send that boy packing. Obviously he can not have a real relationship, so he is looking for something cheap and easy. He is not even worth your FRIENDSHIP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011): He says he wants to go to the theatre with me too and for coffee but he might just be saying that to get what he wants.We have met for coffee before.At first he didnt want to go out anywhere with me at all as he wanted to be secretive but now he does want to go places.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 December 2011):
A man who wants nothing but sex will always be persistent. To be honest, I think you should leave him well in the past. He's very desperate, and I think he's just out to use you.
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reader, HippyChick +, writes (28 December 2011):
 He will say or do what he needs to, he wants to get laid.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 December 2011):
 Of course it’s normal for a man who wants to get laid to be persistent. Why does he care if you are pretty or outgoing? He wants to get laid… doesn’t need a pretty girl or an outgoing one…just one willing to spread her legs and open her mouth for insertion of body parts…
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011): Yeah of course he'll be persistent. It's not that hard when a girl allows you to talk about sex with her, it's fun, the hard part is meeting in person and dating, that's the true gauge of a guy one who will spend time in person getting to know you and not just to meet up in intimate settings to have sex. It's especially easy when the majority of that contact is online. I mean he's already there at home on the computer doing nothing and bored might aswell have a bit of fun talking dirty to you and flirting. He doesn't have to spend any money, he doesn't have to make any effort to look good or smell nice. He can take his time thinking about what he's going to say next. He can google the things you say to get a better of understanding and pretend he knows what you're talking about and he can be fiddling with his willy while he's doing it too.
The guy sounds a bit strange to be honest. People who talk about sex the most are usually those who get it the least, and well if that's the case then he may well chase you for as long as it takes to bag you.
Seriously though, texting and online messaging is the easiest thing in the world. It requires no effort at all because you're at home sitting on your arse, picking your nose and eating it if you like. You also don't have a chance to see the person's face or body language so it's easier to lie.
If you think online messaging and texts, phone calls is effort or that he's trying really hard then you're very mistaken. I'm at home now on my computer doing some work for college. I have 3 IM windows open talking (flirting) with my girlfriend and chatting with my sister and her friend about their night out last night. I'm watching season 6 of Dexter on the TV and am just after feeding my dogs one of which is now taking a nap on my lap and I even have time to switch tabs on my browser to answer questions here. What part of talking to my girlfriend online then requires effort? It doesn't, it's just a tiny part of what I;m doing right now and it's no hassle at all. My point is it's easy as hell, it's not persistence it's just easy. The hard part and true persistence is the time I spend with her on our dates. When all my focus and attention is on her. When out for dinner or going on a drive, spending time, money etc. on her. That's effort and that's persistence. All the rest is nothing because he could have 3 or 4 girls he's talking to at the same time, he could even have a girlfriend and be married and do all this.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (28 December 2011):
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