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writes:What happens now?I'm pretty sure I have met the girl of my dreams. It's taken me a while to find her, and I am extremely happy with how things have been going so far. Spending time with her is amazing, we cuddle and talk and we have made love too (twice). It's all just incredible.We've seen each other, I think, about 6 times. But I am unsure of how to proceed.Should I aim to talk to her everyday, even if it's a small amount? Or should there be days where she doesn't here from me at all still? At the moment it's a bit of a mix of both. I am not sure if I should be slightly distanced still, I don't want her to think that I'm clingy, as I'm not. But I am very interested in making this a long-term relationship. I just don't want to screw anything up.So how much should I be communicating with her at the moment? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): Hey guys, I'm the one who posted the question.
Thanks for your answers!
I agree that I should just be taking it easy and going with the flow.
When we first made love I said to her that I don't think we should do it, and she agreed. But it just happened. She said she hadn't had sex in a very long time so I believe that she would not do this normally. Think she has been single for mucuh longer than I have.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1  +, writes (21 January 2011):
Go with the flow. For me, I hate when new guys smother me. My advice will be to move slowly, don't pull out all your tricks at once. Call every other day for now. That way you can guage her interest and see how often she calls you. So, you can text her one time, but way for her to respond before you text again. And please don't say things like "what took you so long to respond?"
Hope things work out :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): Wow thats amazing, its so nice to hear a guy say he's met the girl of his dreams :)
Just be yourself... you can always send her a text message some days if you feel she might be a bit busy for a phone call. I dont think you HAVE to contact her every single day but there should be at least some contact "most" days.
Just relax though and dont analyze it too much, enjoy it!
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Just be yourself, and do whats natural. It seems like it is working up to this point in the relationship. Why change things now? Don't you want her to fall for the "real you?"
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, heartbreaker1  +, writes (21 January 2011):
Hey, since you already had sex twice and u've only seen her 6 times that means this girl does this with anyone she meats right away regardless if its gonna last or not, so my friend this girl sounds experienced therefore you have to show her that you have a very interesting busy life, busy with work friends family etc.., and do not show her that she's the only interesting thing in your life because you don't want her to feel like you easy and would do anything she say, try to do things she likes but not everything she likes, try to have your opinions on what to do when you take her out even if she suggested something, but not all the time.Try not to pick up all her phone calls or texting her back right away, pretend like your busy sometimes even if you were not doin anything and when you call her back just act normal as if nothing happened just to tease her and make up anythin to say, make her miss a lil bit every now and then and keep her guessin on what's gonna happen next and keep it interesting, try teasing her by kissin her neck lips whatever especially if you guys can't have sex anywhere around where you are. Don't show any jealousy yet at all and play the mature card all the time untill she falls for you..;) good luck
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reader, CJH  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Stop trying to categorise this relationship and start enjoying it more. If you focus too hard on what you need to do, you're going to drive the girl nuts.Take things a day at a time and hope this develops into what you want. If it does, fantastic - if it doesn't so be it. Unfortunately, there are no guarantees in life, well, perhaps just the ultimate one that the lights will go out one day but other than that, there isn't a lot you can do to change the way things happen, especially when it comes to relationships.Behave yourself, be loving and attentive but stop trying to make this perfect. Perfection is possible but, usually, it comes naturally rather than by forcing anything.
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