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writes:Hey I just got my first girlfriend im inexperienced compared to her she is a virgin tho, but i keep thinking of her with the other guys why is that? Other girls that i speak to there past doesnt bother me even if they've done worse then mine? is it cause i love her? Why is that i have certain periods where i get this burning feeling in my stomach thinking of her past to be honest she has done more then me but in comparison to some girls her age(20) she hasnt she is still a virgin and she has been with two other guys only for 2 months and 2 wks both cheated on her and she said she had a fling and kissed a few guys at clubs, i wish she never told me! ok i know its only kissing but its just shes done more then me and i feel like crap! i have been her longest and closest relationship im the first guy to finger her! help me please thank you very much people!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (13 April 2007):
 I think that there is a honeymoon period where everthing is sweetness and light and that You are allowing little black doubts to interfere with it. Do not judge her and tell her what you think she should be like, try to abandon your fears and doubts about her past! You can't change the past! The only thing that is important is the present! She has allowed you to get closer to her than she has ever done before. This is not something that she would brag about, that is not something that women do. The only reason that she went futher with you is because she desires, loves and trusts you.
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reader, DrCynic  +, writes (13 April 2007):
 I can understand... My girlfriend often mentions to me how well her guy friends treat her, and it is hard not to be jealous...
But, of course, there's a silver lining here. Honestly, I think you'll be fine... From what you've said, you're way to preoccupied with the past... Keep the present and future in your sights. You've gone farther than I've gone in my life, and we're close in age, so don't feel bad...
You'll be ok if you don't think about it.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (13 April 2007):
 It's hard sometimes to imagine your girl with another guy, even if you know that all they did was kiss. But you've got to put it behind you. You know perfectly well that now she wants you, and you are moving forward with what is going to be the first really deep and truly meaningful relationship of both your lives.
Let the past go. Both of you have things that your partner might wish you hadn't done, even if hers went a little further than yours. But now you're building something wonderful together. Concentrate on that and the thoughts of those other past incidents will disappear from your mind. Live in today ... you can't live in yesterday.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (12 April 2007):
 Jealousy is a natural response, but dont let it ruin what you have.
You have to see what is in front of you and enjoy that, and not ponder about what might have been. This is only going to end with you feeling resentment towards her which she doesnt deserve and i`m sure you dont want that.
Look at her next time you see her and just think that she is yours. No-one elses. You want her and she wants you. End of story. Take the bull by the horns and make the most of it before you let the negative feelings cloud the positive things in your life.
Keep reminding yourself of these things and I`m sure you'll soon forget about the men in her past, which up till now have made things difficult for you. Everyone has a past history so dont think too much about it, shes with you NOW!!
Goodluck mate..
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