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writes:Hi Everyone I don't know what to do so I need your advice.I got married 20 years ago to a wonderful man that I met when I was in the Army. He was also in the Army. We have 3 children. I am bisexual and my husband knew this when we married. A few years into our marriage we separated because. Was thinking I only wanted to settle down with a woman. My husband and I remained friends and he still treated my kids and me good. We never stopped loving one another. Six months ago I met a woman and although she and I have never been physical I've found myself in love with her. She tells me all the time that she's in love with me and wants us to be exclusive and intimately involved. She's also hinted at us living together. It's killing me, because I want to tell her yes but the problem is I haven't told her that my husband and I are back sleeping together and we just moved back in together. I'm bisexual but he's the only man I will sleep with. When the woman and I met she said she was a lesbian only but she has two kids. I spoke to my husband about this and he suggested that we have a marriage with the three of us. He adores her too. I know some of you will not think high of this but that's alright. How show I approach this woman to tell her the truth and ask her if we could give this polyrelationship a try. I'm in love with my husband and her and I'm unhappy without both. Please don't attack me because this is fine by my husband and me. I can't go on like this being dishonest with this woman. I've been avoiding her for months and she's making it known that I am hurting her and keeps leaving messages asking me what happened. I don't want to lose her to a woman that she's been working with who's trying to catch her attention. Thay've been getting closer. Please help thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): You and your husband have three children together... and you are seriously contemplating doing this three way marriage DESPITE their best interests? Are you kidding me?
In the USA it is illegal to have plural marriages. So, I'm assuming that you three will just be faking a marriage between all of you... and for purely sexual reasons. You can love your friend... it doesn't mean you have to have sex with her and introduce her as one of your spouses. Have you thought... for one minute what this will do to your children? If you and your husband want to have relationships in addition to what is between the two of you ... go for it... but don't screw with your children's heads by exposing them to this adult material. You might very well wind up losing your children... by them leaving you... or by them being taken away from you.
Are you prepared for the repercussions? Are you prepared to face your families and the public? Are you prepared to face your children? Are you prepared?
We can love many people and we can be sexually attracted to many people... it doesn't mean we have to act on it.
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reader, turbine  +, writes (2 December 2010):
That's weird......How could you have feelings for someone whom you're lying? You have to tell her the truth that you are with your husband and whom you love more that her but obviously! It's up to her how she'll take it but the truth should be told and not be hidden just because you feel that it's going to hurt her. And beleive me....you're going to make a fool out of yourselves in front of your kids if you go for a threesome marriage! And you might even influence them wrongly because same sex marriage and sex is immoral after all.
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reader, ivanichiaynus  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 Go with our heart.
One life, one opportunity.
You should all get together and discuss possibilities and I'm sure you will come to a suitable arrangement if you all get on.
Forget society and the views of others; our rules and mores can't cope with the unsual, but that doesn't make it wrong.
Ivan.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): You realise that a three way marriage is illegal right? That people actually get drastic jail time for Bigamy, right?
You cannot be in a marriage, or a serious relationship with more than one person at a time, its unfair and it's not right.
Flynn 24
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reader, almc  +, writes (2 December 2010):
I think you should just come out and tell her, go for a walk somewhere, where a lot of people don't go, and tell her how you feel... And all will happen is a yes or a no. Come out and tell her your sorry for not telling her soon, tell her how your man likes her to. It could work out great. Hope it does
Ps:: let us know how it truns out. Best of luck.
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