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writes:My ex girlfriend just found out that she has Vaginal Herpes. She got it from her current,(soon to be ex) boyfriend. So i'm in a bit of a pickle. We have for a while now been talking about seeing each other again and since I split with my girl too it started looking like it might happen. Now I don't want a relationship right now because i'm sorta in a life crisis my self but I just wanted to see her whenever I got into town. You know date. The truth is I love her. But now there's this. Ironically since we broke up I have decided to turn over a new leaf. One thing im not doing (gonna try hard not too) is to have sex before I get married. So, I don't mind seeing her and not doing much else but being with her and kissing her some. But what about the future? Like I said I love her. But should I really take this on? And if I do and we do work out in the long run and get married what is my risks? After writing this I realized I already know in my heart what i'm gonna do but I will post it anyway. Thanks.
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reader, nicolexue +, writes (27 February 2008):
 check more info for this kind of STD at STDromance.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help. Yea I've been talking with her everyday about it. She was really scared but I kept finding out more and more about it and telling her to do the same. Now we both feel good about it and I think we are gonna be ok.
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reader, red1982  +, writes (17 January 2008):
Herpes is a recurrent infection, which means that sometimes she will have blisters but other times it will be dormant (this could be years before she gets another case) The Drs will be able to treat the infection when it comes up, but not cure it forever.It is very unlikely that she will pass the virus on when you have sex. Unless the herpes are present at the time. However, some virus will be present on the genital skin surface from time to time, although infrequently. So, there is still a small chance that she may pass on the virus when you have sex when she does not have symptoms. Using a condom each time you have sex is thought to reduce the chance much further. Also, people who take antiviral medication long-term to prevent recurring symptoms have a reduced risk of passing on the virus.
The chances of her passing on the virus to children even if herpes are present during childbirth are very small, however a midwife would be able to talk more through that.
Don't discount a relationship with this girl just because she happens to have been unfortunate to have contracted an STD. You could always talk to your local GP or GUM clinic about protecting yourself further.
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