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writes: I'm sorry, this might be a bit long...A few years ago, when I was 13, my family started breaking up, slowly but surely. I didn't know it at the time, but my parents were having problems as my dad kept getting us into debt and lying about it. Their marriage wasn't strong, but they held it together for me and my brother, ''Craig''.Craig had always been a problem, and often caused huge arguements between him and my mum or dad, and I always used to get caught in the middle.Finally, my dad moved out, and after a few months of my mam having to put up with Craig by herself, she then told Craig she'd had enough and to get out the house. He went to live with my dad. It was horrible the way life was, so in a way, I was glad the arguements had finally stopped.Recently, just a few months ago, they both moved back in, and as I'm still staying in the same house, it's affected me quite a lot. I used to be really scared of my parents divorcing, and when they did, it took a lot of getting used to. I eventually got used to it, but now its the same process again with them both moving back in. I just can't get used to all this change. Plus, everyone pays my brother (who is now 19) so much more attention than me, and gives him everything he wants, because otherwise they're afraid he will argue. I'm sick of always being treated differently from him, he can do what he wants and I can't. I try much harder at college, he just bunks off. I don't see why.Also, at the same time, it's unbelievably hard getting used to my parents being together again, in a way that they hold hands in the shopping centre and kiss all the time. I'm sick, and not used to it, why are they putting me through all this? It's sick to watch - I know I'm being irrational, but I mean, it's so hard.It's really getting me down. Can anyone give me any advice, on how to feel a bit better? Has anyone been through the same thing? What would you do? Please help, thankyou :]
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Your not being irrational I can understand how you feel.
Yes your parents split up but now it seems they have sorted their differences and are back together, which is a good thing, it just means your having to adjust again to a new way of life. No one is doing this to hurt or spite you and they are just oblivious to how you are feeling right now. I suggest you sit down with your mum or dad or both and tell them how your feeling, they probably have no idea how their actions are making you feel.
Your brother is doing what brothers do, getting on your nerves!
Most brothers and sisters think the other gets more than they do and maybe you could also talk to your parents about this also, tell them you feel left out, which is what the real problem is.
I know most people find it difficult to be open to their parents but I think it's the only way to get this out in the open so they are aware of how your feeling.
Good Luck!
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