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*eremiah
writes:My girlfriend keeps saying I don't love her. Its getting annoying, because I keep telling her that I do, but she just responds with "nope". What can I say to prove that I love her so she will stop. I love her very much, and I wish she knew I did! Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 November 2009):
Woo!!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): a man of action! three cheers for you jeremiah!
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reader, jeremiah +, writes (29 November 2009):
jeremiah is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the responses, they helped alot. This is what I told her. "I miss you every time I'm not around you and everytime I think about you (which is pretty much all the time) I feel happy and anxious at the same time. I start smiling at random times and people look at me and think "What's up with him?". But when you doubt that I love you, It hurts my feelings. I prayed to God that I would never lose you. I would give up everything I have, everything I will ever have, just to be with you forever. I really do love you, and I'll do anything just to prove it!" Then we both cried. But she hasn't said it anymore. Thanks alot!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 In response to one of the other answers, I just want to say that I dont believe any body should have to buy gifts to prove they love somebody else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): She might have self esteem problems and believe that no one will love her. As well as telling her have you shown that you love her with actions such as buying her gifts?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 November 2009):
I'd get annoyed with her and say "fine, if you won't believe me then I don't want to be with you. If you don't trust me then what's the point. If you decide that you want to trust me and accept that I do love you then call me. But I can't take this any more, even though you are everything to me."
Then walk away and don't call.
If she really is stupid enough to lose you because of her insecurities then she's too far gone to be in a relationship anyway.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, MissKin +, writes (28 November 2009):
 Lol. i used to be like this because i was insecure. but i didnt ask it CONSTANTLY. some people just like to hear you say it. some people are just playing hard to get. Tell her u love her, but it's annoying u. ask her why she wont believe u. a relationship wont work with this though, not unless u can ignore it.
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reader, Accountable +, writes (28 November 2009):
 Has she had a bad relationship in the past that would cause her to be doubtful of guys? If so, all you can do is be loving and patient; she will believe you in time. Otherwise, I understand how that would be hugely frustrating - have you let her know that it hurts you that she doesnt believe you? Those words mean a lot to some, and either you're throwing them about so early she thinks you can't possibly mean them, or you value them and truly mean them and she's belittling that. Have a conversation with her about it - hopefully she'll understand that its not just something you're saying because you think she wants to hear it, you're saying it because you truly feel it. Good luck, i hope this helped :)
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (28 November 2009):
She does sound annoying. If she is too stubborn to accept your word for it you are either going to have to learn to put up with her very negative attitude, and her refusal to meet you half way on this issue and decide if this is what you want from a relationship.
I know I wouldnt be able to be in a relationship where that was the response - it would very soon start to make me feel valuless as a person and as if my words and feelings didn't matter, and that's not good for your emotional or spiritual well being.
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