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*ollins27023
writes:ok new problemi have been seen this girl for a while now and its going great. she want to kick things up a notch as she want to have sex. we have done some of the other stuff like kissing and feeling each other but that was about it. i have been dreaming about this for a while now and now i have no idea what to do. the thought of screwing this up adds alot of pressure. i want to have sex but i can't help thinking of all the risks. the possibility of getting her pregnant, the way relationships get messed up by sex nowadays is so much and i don't want to get seperated from this girl. is to high and i know why don't i use a condom. it can't be done. don't ask. the possibility of getting her pregnant, the way relationships get messed up by sex nowadays is so much and i don't want to get seperated from this girl. anyway i love her alot. i want to do this but its to much of a risk. at this age its too much.what do i doits funny as i spend alot of time thinking about it and when it comes i freeze up i don't know what to do.and what happens after the sex, i mean what to talk about and it is ok to tell her about past experiences.
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reader, collins27023 +, writes (12 February 2010):
collins27023 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks to everyone who commented. to be honest i dont really care about age of consent, because i dont want the gonverment to tell me when i can have sex, its my body. i talked to her and she understands so we'll wait a few more weeks/months. anyway thanks.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (9 February 2010):
 Ok, first of all, you are underage, therefore you shouldnt be having sex anyway.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/sex_relationships/sex/age_of_consent/
Until you are 16, ALL sexual acts are against the law.
It doesnt matter if you think you are ready, she thinks she is ready, you shouldnt be doing it. You think you are mature, but really you are both still children, and do not understand the consequences of a sexual relationship.
With sex comes the possibility of children. Do you see yourself being with this girl in 18 years time? That is how long a parent is responsble for a child... that is MORE YEARS than you have been on the planet.
You would have to support that child financially for those 18 years, give it a roof over its head, clothes, food, toys, - how much do your parents provide for you now? That will be your job, but you wont have any money, because you wont be able to get a good job, with good pay, as you wont be able to go to uni, because you have to bring in money now, at 16, 17, 18.....
What about STD's? Have you thought about those? She is more at risk of getting the HPV virus if she has sex at a young age.
There are reasons WHY children should not be having sex. In 5 years time you will look back and realise how little you knew, and how childish you were. Dont look back and regret that you made a stupid mistake.
The fact that you have issues about condoms, and you are even asking this question says that you have doubts. If you have any doubts at all, you should WAIT.
Think about it. Try and act like a grown up, wait until you are old enough and capable of coping with the consequences.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (9 February 2010):
 If you cant manage a condom then don't delude yourself that you can manage a child when you are both still children yourself.
I suggest you wait until you are both mature enough to do it responsibly.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (9 February 2010):
 Risks of STIs and pregnancy can be stopped with condoms and although the pill only stops pregnancy and not infections, I'd recommend you use both.
If you aren't 100% sure that you're ready to have sex, then don't.
You are still very very young and you should really enjoy your relationship in other ways than having sex because it is a big step and although it's hard to believe, you will be much better able to handle it in a few years.
good luck
xx
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reader, Lori420  +, writes (9 February 2010):
If your a virgin then i can see where your coming from being afraid. If you are still a virgin then you have to make the choice yourself. Dont let her make that for you. Everyone wants their first time to be special but it doesnt always happen and thats ok just as long as you know who ever your with that your comfortable. If your not a virgin then you know what to do. You must wear protection. She too should consider birth control. Just take it slow and be prepared. Talk with her about your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): hello, well if you think you are ready, go for it, i am a girl who is 13 and im a virgin, and i really want to have sex just probably the same to you, everyone tells me its natural but it is nerve rakin just to even get tossed off i imagine, if its your first time with a girl, you dont know how to react, i would advise you if u cant use condoms, get her to use contraceptive pills or something similar, just do what you want to do not anyone else, if you dont feel confident around her dont do it, but if you feel relaxed, and confertable do it.
hope this helped x
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reader, lil ladyy +, writes (9 February 2010):
 well you are younge soo you should take time to do that and have fun wiv out it being at that age it could ruin stuff like at that age u might feel awaked after but then it might bring u stronger together....
but it seems to me u dnt seem to into it at the mo n if she loves u she will understand...
and wen u do . do it . dnt b scared just relax and it will be ook x
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