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female
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30-35,
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writes:okay, this is unnusual. im inlove with my schools resource officer. we spend a lot of time together. im comfy around him and can tell him anything. when he looks at me i get this feeling thts to hard to explain. when i come around the corner and i see him standing there my heart stops and i smile. im very popular and well-known. he's not even close to the typical guys i date. i was sexually abused for ten years by a older man. is this really love i feel or comfort?help me!!
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reader, Psychology101 +, writes (1 March 2010):
Hi, how are you? Well i think it may have something to do with the sad situation that you had to deal with when you were much younger. I have seen situations where woman you are abused date older or are attracted to older men for the reason that they feel a level of comfort. Let me know if you need anything i could help you with.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 February 2010):
 We don't know if your school officer feels the same way about you. If you told him anything, including your abuse he would be very careful of not flirting with you, to make sure he doesn't look like a predator. His full concern is that you are totally healed, and comfortable with men. You appreciate being listened to and he cares about you. He is doing what a great boyfriend should but that doesn't necessarily mean he is interested in you. You are feeling love for him as a counsellor, but not as a romantic kind love. I think deep down inside you are yearning for a relationship. Yet you don't have to ask every guy you see "Are you the one?"
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