She wants to do her own thing but still have a relationship with me

A male age 36-40, anonymous writes:

So I've dated this girl for seven months and we broke up about two or three months ago. At first things were supposed to be a break, but i found out she's making out with a large number of guys. That caused me to get angry and basically explode on her. She decided that she cant be with me because she saw the worst side of me. Time passed and we began talking again. One day she invited me to her house and told me that she's down to kiss and whatever happens happens. So we ended up having sex. Things seemed like before because she was holding me and kissing me. We hung out everyday for the next week, but one day she decided she doesnt want to talk to me anymore. She even had another boy tell me off. I accepted it and didnt talk to her for a week. She said she missed me and we were talking again and hanging out. Things were also intimate between us, and slowly things became more like a relationship since we were both only focused on eachother. She went on vacation for two weeks, on the first day she told me she doesnt want to talk to me anymore because she needs a life of her own without me, and i was furious and confused at first to why she just dropped me. a week later we started talking again, almost as if nothing happened. Yet this time I would see her on facebook flirting with ALOT of different guys and ive been hearing that she leads on like 5 guys at a time. I know that im the only boy she actually sees because she never hangs out with these other guys so i didnt care really. Last night i went to visit her at where she stayed, and we had amazing sex. Afterwards she told me she was in love with me still, and that our time apart hurt her even though she said she was happy. I told her that shes the only girl in my life. When i left back home we talked and she said that she wants to be single and hook up with people. I was confused because i thought that she finally came around. I found out today that shes talking to another guy and they went dancing at a club but nothing happened. I dont know what to do about this anymore, I really want her and i love her with all my heart, yet she wants to do her own thing and wants me to do mine atleast for now but she still wants to have a relationship with me. What do i do because she says that i have her heart, yet i keep feeling hurt because i cant truly be with her. she wants to be with me but isnt sure yet, but i know that if we go along as she planned we could fall apart. please help i have no clue on what to do with this

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