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writes: Im confused lately with my girlfriend of 4 mths cause lately i seem to be losing feelings for her....i swear i have not been cheating on her or anything to make her feel upset....But recently she just told me that before i came into the picture, she already was like kind of going out with another guy but she only liked him but nv did felt alot more like love for him. And she told me that she chose me and loves me more then the other guy and thats not all... she told me she still has feelings for her ex-boyfriend although it has been almost a year...but she told me that he had already moved on or something like that...which got me literally upset....so im in a fix now...whether to let her go or to stay with her....cause firstly i starting to see like we are not meant for each other....Confused....
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reader, lostgirl04  +, writes (1 February 2006):
 Well it seems to me that your gf is more confused than you are. I think that if you're starting to see that your not meant for each other then you should ask her for some space. Tell her that the fact that she told you she still has feelings for her ex really upset you and that you don't feel like she appreciates you. See what she says and if she sounds indecisive about being with you then let her go.If she's too caught up with her ex then you don't need to deal with that. And since she said she chose you and not him then tell her to show it, not just say it because it's not fair for you to have to be with someone who constantly thinks of her ex and tells you she thinks about him. Most girls still think of their ex's but we don't go around telling our current bf's that becuz that is not right. Hope this helps, Good Luck!
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reader, kt  +, writes (1 February 2006):
 this is a very confusing story! if she still has feelings for him, well there isn't alot you can do about that. ask yourself what do you want? do you love her enough to stay and make this work, or have you had enough with competing for her whole heart? the choise is yours. if i was you i would put my foot down and get a straight answer about where you are in this relationship. just have a serous talk with her. maybe after that things will seem alot more clear.
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reader, sharliebbz +, writes (1 February 2006):
dont worry its common for people to still have feeling for there reasont relationships people feeling last up to a long period of time so give it time she will eventually know that she is with the right person but you ave got to be surportive and give her your full atention because it will be harder for her to give up on him
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