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writes:So, I’ve been seeing this girl for about a month (long distance) and we started having sex after 3 weeks. She had a preexisting trip to Europe she started calling me two weeks into the trip on a daily basis. Joking (not expecting that she would) I asked her if she hooked up with anybody? She hesitated, but answered truthfully and admitted to making out with a complete stranger. This shocked me more or less disappointed me because I really like her. I thought she was someone completely different.It really bothers me that we had sex, shared an intimate moments and less than a week later she is making out with some dude in a German night club. By the way, she wasn't even drunk. Two days ago, was the last time she called and her phone card was running out and she asked me to call her back, but I am so disappointed that I haven't called her. Obviously ,I didn't mean anything to her. Right? I have been hurt before and even though we were not officially a couple I feel betrayed. To me, it is like foreshadowing a future problem. My heart wants to give her another chance but my mind and gut tell me to run. I Am so confused should I call her back and work things out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): DUDE I HAVE BEEN IN THIS SITUATION, RUN LIKE HELL MATEI met my long distance girl 5 years ago and we started dating 4 years later. She hooked up with 3 or 4 guys while we were hooking up and i was so in love with her i kept taking her back. In the end i had to leave her because i was hurting to much. This is going to get worse for you my friend.. my advice from experience is to run like hell, otherwise she is going to keep doing it to you. I know you are hurting right now because you dont know if she really likes you or if you mean anything to her, truth is YOU DO, but she also wants the physical lust side of things and its not fare to you. The only chance you guys will work is when your together properly and not long distance, because u just dont know what she is doing! GOODLUCK!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): She made you wait 3 weeks but she screwed him for nothing?
Fuck that noise. I would forget anything serious with her.
The most screwed up part of this story is that she probably DOES like you more than him. Some women are like that. They're so illogically fucked up that they actually think you would like them better this way instead of being frustrated and insulted by it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): I think you move too fast. Your first hint should've been the sex after three weeks. Not saying this was your fault, because it wasn't, just saying that I think you need to follow your gut and your mind and run. She is a fast girl. Become slow yourself, so that you may find a slow girl.
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reader, L*  +, writes (25 August 2009):
has she slept with him or making out with him?anyway it's not a good sign..if she was really into you then she wouldn't have kissed the other guy. I don't want to burst your bubble but she doesn't seem like someone you could trust. even though it's in the very first stage of the relationship it's not good thing.
usually, the first month or so are the nicest ones where you're getting to know the other partner and there's a lot of sexual interest. if she already kissed another guy in the first month of you being together, what is she going to do 2 years down the line? when the relationship starts getting a bit boring??
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reader, celestial  +, writes (25 August 2009):
She obliviously isn't committed to you. You can wait for her to fully give you her heart. Or simply walk away. But, as you said it's a bad start.
I would walk away. How could I sleep with someone, without giving them my heart and having theirs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): You have been seeing her with aonth you have no idea what or who she is.She is honest and she does like you. Id be inclined to call her say ye need to talk when she gets back and take it from there.be adult about it, explian that you want to be with someone who can be faithful. If that isnt her she needs to tell you so ye can both move on.
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