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writes: My girlfriend has cheated on me more than once. She says she will never cheat on me again and has been going to counseling.My problem is that she works with the guy she cheated with and a lot of her friends hang out with this guy. She promised me that she would not hang out with this guy alone but she continues to hang out with him and a group of people.Is it wrong for me to request that she stop seeing him entirely - even if it's with a group of friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2012): I am almost at the same with you...my girl cheated with me with my best friend once and a week before twicewhat i suggest you do is :if she really wants to stay with you and not with the other guy then apply some rules (don't stay alone with him for example)if he goes out with her friends then you do the sameBUT... if you see her acting strange then guess what...she is doing it againThx for reading
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Yeh I'm in the same boat as you, the 11th was our 1 year anniversity, and she cheated on me yesterday and today, and she talks to him and hangs around him quite a bit. She moved away in Feb, because her mother forced her too, and I think she'll do it again, but I'm in love with her, and can't break up with her, even thought it kills me
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): Ya, my girlfriend of 22 months got mad at me and had sex with somebody she has known a long time and considers her brother. Even before that i was jealous of her closeness with him. She adores him but i don't think he wants an intimate relationship with her. The problem is, they are still in contact. I insisted, even threatened, to try to make her "banish him from the kingdom" but she won't. She won't even get rid of pictures taken of them hugging two days after sex. I just can't make her understand how much this eats at me inside. She blows it off because from her perspective, it is no big deal, it won't happen again. I love her so much and never want to lose her but she doesn't respect my hurt enough to give him up. I will never, never, never, stop hurting from this and this might end up ending our relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): wow. i feel for you. temptation will always be around if it's always around. you know? it's true. are they still friends? if so, what's to stop them from crossing the line. I bet he hopes it happens again. sorry.
you may want to try and keep your options somewhat open with this woman who appears to be on the lose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): No it isn't too much to ask. You have to tell her that you cannot except her hanging around with him in any way. This is something I think she would give up willingly if she wants the relationship to continue. Ask her what would she want or expect from you if the situations were reversed?
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reader, kim21 +, writes (21 November 2005):
ok so if it bothers you that much and she is willing to go to counselling to sort out the problem give it time talk to her tell her how you feel about her hanging around with this other guy. try and compromise. if she loves you she will be willing to try to solve this problem by not seeing him.
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (21 November 2005):
Oh my! arent you the softie and underdog. She will carry on cheating on you because she knows you adore her and in a way doesnt respect you for it. She knows that whatever she did, you would always love her. forgive her and never raise the subject again.Time to become macho man and throw your weight around.Tell her she is welcome to him and call him up and ask him to collect her.The tears and pleading will be hollywood proportions but oh! the adrenalin will be pumping through both your veins and you will have a fantastic night of passion but you have to show her you've got balls at last. Go for it.
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reader, tammyl +, writes (21 November 2005):
Of course she promises! what do you think she is going to tell you? That she WILL cheat again? You let her get away with it one to many times already why would she stop? She knows she can and you won't leave, she knows what she's doing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2005): No, its not unreasonable, but you are being foolish to think she won't cheat on you again. Before you leave this lady, sit her down and find out what the other guy does for her that you don't. Cheaters usually don't leave a good thing, unless its not such a good thing. Learn from her. There are few cheaters who simply can't keep their pants up, but they are far rarer than you might think. Find someone who will appreciate you, and earn your trust.
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reader, lisa_01  +, writes (21 November 2005):
 You should be able to feel secure in your relationship and it does not sound like you are, if she really loves and cares for you she will understand and not continue to see this person. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2005): look if you have not already dumped her do so now . she says stuff she doesnt mean one word.
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