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writes:Hello there. I have fallen in love with a girl that I don't know very well. We went out a couple of times and I like her and want to be with her even though I don’t know her well. On the last date I kissed her and told her that I wanted to be with her. She told me that she felt the same but in a couple of days she said that she was thinking and that we should take things slower. She said that she would like to get to know me a little better first. I fell really stupid and I think that I blew it with her. I shouldn’t have kissed her. She was starting to fall for me I am sure of it but now I fear that I have ruined everything. Also she has a very controlling mother and she forbade her to see me for a month. I feel terrible and I don’t know what to do. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, lildeesbg  +, writes (20 April 2008):
 You did not blow it, however...have you ever heard the term "slow and steady wins the race"? Well that holds true for many situations, especially with relationships. Saying to someone "i want to be with you" is a big statement, especially if you just started dating. I understand the excitement of finding someone you enjoy can be overwhelming and you just want to be with that person, but you do have to get to know her. It takes time for people to get to know each other. Starting a serious relationship is a big committment. Overall, i dont think you ruined anything, but since she is a little nervous to jump into things, just take it slow. Nothing good comes from rushing. For the next few dates just enjoy her company and the conversations. Enjoy being in the moment instead of looking at future moments.~Dee
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reader, salvation  +, writes (20 April 2008):
you havent ruined anything you just need to slow down you dont know her well and she doesnt know you so spend a while getting to know each other go on dates watch movies and talk then when your both ready and comfortable with each other be together
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