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*thz
writes:She is not in contact with her bf anymore now.. We have kissed when she considers me as her friend..! She said that she can never love me..! And thats because of her x-bf, should wait..? Is there any chance that she will love me as her life partner?It has been around a week or more since she broke up with her ex-bf! She talks to me and shares with me if shes happy or sad..! She talks about her x-bf which dont like but i still listen to it with a heavy heart.Lot of pain in all this but I want her..! Help
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reader, Athz +, writes (11 June 2012):
Athz is verified as being by the original poster of the question thankyou everyone for all yur help and advice this would atleast help me out a lil! :)
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reader, Ayan Ganguly +, writes (11 June 2012):
 Well,love happens in a moment and you must have the patience to wait for the moment to arrive...you say she broke up a week ago...give her some time and may be your shoulders for her to cry...she is not a toy...give her time to absorb the shock..and when the aftershock of breakup is over and then she finds you by her she would realize your feelings.
On the otherhand if her x-bfriend comes back to her life and she goes back to him..that's destiny my friend..you two were never meant to be together..accept it and move on
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (11 June 2012):
 I agree with starlights, it's way too soon to be making a move on her, she is rebounding and trying to fill the space left by her ex and that means she isn't thinking clearly.
You see this as your opportunity to get in but my friend, girls need quite a lot of time to recover from emotional pain so they are less likely to rush into another relationship if they didnt want their last one to end.
She has been honest with you and you need to respect that, but all is not lost...
Do as she wishes and be a friend, but not a doormat. Hang out with her if she wants to talk or needs cheering up but hold back a little or she may get dependant on you for all the wrong reasons.
You have a chance to be a hero here but do not smother her with your love talk or desires. Play it cool and dont be too clingy or protective.
There are no guarantees but play it right and you may still get your chance to date her.
Good luck xx
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reader, Athz +, writes (11 June 2012):
Athz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I dont want to let her go... She says she can never be mine and maybe shes right..! But what about me i cant stop myself from loving her i just wish that with time maybe she would love me like i do!
I just wish thst i dont have to wait forever...
Im going to stay with her and I wont force anything on her..! Is it ok if i do this..? Are there chances that she would realize it..?
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reader, Justinara +, writes (11 June 2012):
She kissed you because
1) she knows you want her
2) she feels lonely
3) she wants physical touch
If she goes on about her ex than she is still into him. You want her but she is not ready for a new relationship.
Best thing to do is stay away from her, than she may miss you and realise she actually wants to be with you. You may think that's hard to do, and maybe it will be for you, but you got to make a choice. Lose your dignity and put up with being treated like the next best thing or go out and find yourself the best thing.
Sounds like she is confused and you better leave her to find herself or keep the relationship like it is. Its your call. Have Respect for yourself!
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reader, Starlights +, writes (11 June 2012):
 If she said she cant love you she cant.
She obviously is hurt over her past bf, and is looking for a friend to share problem with, not have anything more.
It is difficult for you; but you have to decide if you can tolerate more of hearing about *him*, because she does love him, not you.
You have to accept that AND respect that if you wish to continue being her friend.
If you cannot then this situation will prove intolerable and you will end up pushing her away or hoping things will work out by waiting.
This girl is on a rebound so just be careful.
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