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writes:One of my (girl) friends said that 50% of girls don't go for guys with high confidence, like she does. I'm like 'huh?!'Is this true?If yes, is it because guys with high confidence are the ones who are more likely to do be some kind of jerk, or is it something else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): marriedlady, wouldn't it be more accurate to say that a shy guy is like a beautiful girl with a blanket over her head? Otherwise it would be a piece of cake for him to get a girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): women in general love the male species i general. We like shy guys, confident guys and everything in between. We like tough guys, we like teddy bears, we kike rugged, we like cute...we just like guys. A shy guy is like a beautiful girl who hasnt yet discovered her beauty. most guys are an endearing mixtture...personally i just like guys.. :D mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): Would you go so far as to say that dating a shy guy is like a guy dating a girl he thinks is kind of ugly?
If not, how would you describe it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): Confidence= good= you like who you are. To be in love with who you are= jerk. Too many guys who think they look good are also in love with themselves and thats a huge turn off. I don't even know any women who can be so obsessed and into themselves as certain men who LOVE themselves... It's perfectly possible to be confident and realistic as well. Just because you might look good does not equal to confidence, although it could be difficult for the person himself to see the difference. The difference is that a person with confidence doesn't have to get his surroundings acceptance in order to feel good.
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reader, mediocreland  +, writes (28 November 2009):
I think she's thinking confidence = huge ego/cocky/arrogant.Just because a guy has a lot of confidence doesn't mean he's going to be a jerk. Confidence just means the guy is going to make the first moves in the relationship, or have the guts to go up and talk to a girl first. A lot of girls are attratced to confident guys, probably because a lot of girls have some confidence issues. But it goes the other way around too. My best friend is very confident and she has a shy, quiet boyfriend that she bosses around (and it works for them).
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (28 November 2009):
 You Can never generalize as everyone has their own preference but I tend to think that most women/girls Do like confident guys..........in a polite go getter type not in an arrogant I'm God's gift to women. Most women like NICE guys who are not afraid to also go after what they want. Unfortunately most nice guys are so afraid of overstepping their boundaries or getting rejected that they beat around the bush too much and never actually go after what it is they want. The 'hey baby, wanna go for a ride in my sports car" type of guy does tend to be s jerk as they get their confidence from things or an attitude that they just fake not because they believe in themselves.
Just be yourself and don't be afraid to be kind and vulnerable because being vulnerable means being open to people and kindness IS the most attractive thing.
Good luck hun!
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (28 November 2009):
 guys who are over confidant, as in big headed, do tend to be jerks, but you need to be very confidant with out being cocky too have girls crawling all over for you because it shines through.All you have to do is be nice fun and easy to talk to.good luckxx
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (28 November 2009):
I think she's getting confidence confused with cockiness. There are guys out there who are confident, but still very good men. Then there are guys who are confident, think they are God's gift and believe they deserve everything handed to them...which is actually a very insecure person that covers it by perceiving themselves as "confident." Again, some girls have said some things that I find hard to believe, or that they feel this way because they themselves are insecure. A girl once said that, "Girls don't want to date a guy that's better looking than them." What??? Some women need to speak for themselves.
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