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writes: Hey Cupid,I'm only 16 and been in love heaps of times, but I have found the right girl (I think). I hardly know her but she is always on my mind. She is only 14. Is there anything wrong with that?I dont know what to say to her.I dont know how to approach her.I believe I am in love, just love.From The TecknoHed Reply to this Question
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reader, kt  +, writes (31 August 2005):
 hey, you cant just lable this as "love" slow down abit and think you barley know this girl and you are younge there could be other reasons that she is on your mind like it could be curiosity or something. just go up and talk to her and see what she is like, but just remeber dont just lable a feeling as love because love is special and when you feel it for someone it stays with you for life.
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reader, charliesgirl +, writes (30 August 2005):
Wow, you're a pretty fast worker! Only 16 and already you've been in love "loads of times"? That's a pretty huge achievement for anybody!
Dare I suggest that you rephrase this as "in lust"? If you're just going from girl to girl thinking each one will be the love of your life, it doesn't exactly seem that you truly understand the meaning of "love". It is a deep, special emotion that develops over time, after the lusting period. "Love" is a word banded around lightly and often used incorrectly, think of the saying "love at first sight". It's also much, much deeper than looks alone. It's the entire person, the whole package.
Ok, so you have spotted this girl who you are very attracted to, on looks alone. Fair enough, that's the beginning of almost all relationships. But as of yet you don't actually know her. Only by talking to her, befriending her will you actually get to know what she is like as a person.
A word of caution, however- she is under the age of consent, and though you may both consider yourselves to be adults, think like adults and look like adults, in the eyes of the law she is still a minor. So you need to be prepared to wait until she is ready before having sex, otherwise you could get into a lot of trouble. I'm sure that if she truly is special to you, then you will prepared to wait until she is ready.
If it doesn't work out, I wouldn't put too much emphasis on finding "the one" though at this stage in your life. The person you are will change radically over the next ten years, and so will your desired qualities in a partner.
All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2005): You first need to think, 'if i barely know this girl, then how do i know she's the one for me?' if you have thought this and you think she is, maybe you should try to get to know her better, you never know, she might have the same feelings for you. i don't think you being two years older is an issue, i think you should go for this one. good luck
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