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writes: I broke up with my girl three years ago, because of peer presure and now I want it back. Everyone said that I could do better and said countless negative things about her. She had just moved into my town and had not really settled in, so she was different and nobody liked her but me. So because I listened to other people I dumped her for another girl out of town that everyone liked, but she liked me. Everything I did with this other girl was pointless I never felt anything I did with this other girl. When I broke up with her three years ago, she would not leave me alone for 1 year, always writing me notes and all the things we did back at school. But because everyone made fun of me and I didn't like it I was always presured by my friends to rip it up or something and I DID! What a jerk I was! Always said mean things about her and everything that peer presure wanted me to do. Three years later I started flirting with her during the summer because I relized that Shes the only one I'll ever like in my town, and maybe for ever. We started playing soccer and other activites together, til I thought she was ready to be asked the question. I didn't want to rush it so after a few weeks of laughter, smiles, fun I asked her if she would go out with me again, and she said as long as I didn't do what I did three years ago when we break up. And I promised her. So we did things every day since then talked on the phone, been going out for about 2 weeks now and school was about to start and I didn't want to kiss her til school started, because after she sees all the guys and everything I knew that she might change her mind about us two. She promised on the phone there was nothing to worry about, but after school started she wrote me a poem that said she trusts me, I bring light into her day, and then at the end said heart 2 heart. So I wrote one back to her and after that she wrote back saying that there was avlot going on with her family, and she didn't want to go out until she got to know me a little more. She never actually said she didn't want to, she just said she was going through hard times. I didn't understand it so I called her and told her to tell me what was happening and she would not tell me anything. So I told her until she can make up her mind we are just going to be friends. But we still do stuff together not alone, but She still calls me every other day to talk to me because she's bored. I really can't stand waiting for her to tell me what's going on, Every time I see her I want to be with her.I know she still likes me but what can I do when she has probably 5 different reasons why she feels the way she does and won't tell me? I haven't told her why I broke up with her the previous time three years ago but im planning on telling her next time we're alone. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2005): This girl although she won't admit it is probably finding it hard to trust you because of the history you have. People change and although it seems that you realise your mistakes it doesnt seem as though she knows this. You need to be completely honest with each other and she needs to tell you the real reason she is wary of the relationship you both had. you both need to sit down and talk this through and no matter what the reason you need to let eachother know how you feel and if she doesnt want you, as hard as it is you need to walk away, there are other people who you will feel the same for it will just take time.
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