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30-35,
anonymous
writes:This year I became friends with a girl who attended the same school as me. She one day asked me for my MSN and we furthered out conversations on MSN. As time passed by she seemed to keep talking to me almost every second of the day. Then one night she pushed the issue of "who I liked". At this stage, I was still uncertain as to whether I loved her as much as she supposedly did, and told her I liked her. Thou a couple of days later our conversations started to slow down, as she had told me things had become a little awkward, and I decided to tell her that I need time to think before I could give her the commitment. The next week we got into a massive argument which she somehow got my fiends involved in, and told them some stuff which she swore shed never tell. Furthermore, she tells me it’s over. Me and my friends managed to resolve this problem, and I decided to delete her from the ever popular myspace. Thou her reaction to my deletion of myspace sent her into a fit, and she suggests that what had happened between us was a "big mistake", and we cease our conversationsA few months down the track I guess I felt bad about what had happened, and hence apologised for deleting her in the first place, and pretty much blamed myself for the problems that had occurred in our relationship. I then re-added her to MSN, and she and I then slowly started talking again. This time however, she was very random in what she would talk about, and would continually lead me on in almost every conversation we had. She would ask me the most bizarre questions like "do you know how much I love you" and "do you know how much you mean to me?” Though every time I tried to pursue these conversations she would just pass them off as a joke. By this stage I was almost certain of my feelings towards her and decided to tell her that I lover her. She then tells me that she’s not worth it and that we need to have some "time out" as she is incapable of reciprocating the feelings that I felt for her, and apologises for leading me on in the first place. (and she then blocks me on msn) Although; she does know my friends very well, and when I attended a function yesterday night, my friends tried to make it look like as if something was still there between us.Thou of late she just glares at me when I talk to another girl (as a friend) in class, a glare which implies she could so slap me if I was close enough.My question to you is: Why would she really bother leading me on in the first place if she wasn’t overly keen in pursuing our relationship any further. Is it because she is trying to get back at me for being selfish the first time around and asking for more time to think about my feelings towards her? also, is there still some hope of resuming this relationship (as is evident by what my friends have hinted), and if there is, is it worth perusing a relationship with this girl, who I now have deep feelings for (and am finding it almost impossible to loose), or is it over and should I just try to move on and imagine I never met her at all? Im very sorry if my question is poorly structured, thou its been almost 3 weeks since we broke up and I am finding it almost impossible to stop thinking about her/where I went wrong, or whether it was because I rushed things. The fact that you bother reading this will mean a lot to me, and your advice, however harsh, would be kindly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhoa...I never looked at it from this perspective. Thank you all for your positive responses. They were extremely helpful :D. If it weren’t for you I doubt I would've got over it this quick.
Thanks HEAPPPPPPPPSSSSSSSSSSSSSS :D
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (15 December 2007):
 This girl is playing with you at this point. Why, could be because you 1) told her you needed time 2) deleted her from myspace. However, if she is not capable of having a mature conversation about what happened and more importantly, where things are going between you then I say, time to move on. You can keep it casual with her but I would not get into a relationship with her. Seems as if the deck is stacked against this relationship.
Try not to dwell on where you went wrong, it took two and she is partially responsible so it likely isn't just something you did.
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reader, huneygyrl +, writes (15 December 2007):
 It seems like she's playing mind games with you. She's loving you one minute then her actions tell you otherwise. It's all games.
You're still young. Have fun with your friends.
Don't waste your time on this girl.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (15 December 2007):
 Ok. Lets pass this talk to her explain your feelings stuff!
Is she really worth the worry, all the energy you are wasting on her. She is not one in a million.
I am sorry, I hate these kind of capricious girls who make men puzzled.
Just give up, ignore her stares whatever, and if she happens to call or speak to you tell her you have got work to do (I would tell her to fuck off which will work fine, but I will get many nice comments from other aunts who are into talk to her tell her how you feel stuff)
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