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writes:Hi Dear Cupid; I'am a sigle man with no attachments. About 2 months ago a young lady at the job would say hi every morning in a very appealing sexy kind Away, well in the begining I didn't put to much mind to it, she continue with her sexy hello and one afternoon I receive a anonymous call at my cell and play off that she was looking for this person to give him some money and mention my name as to be that person; I not knowing it was her, I said sorry wrong person and hung up. Later that day my friend told me that she had ask for my telephone # and that she gave it to her, I said that is O.K. dont mention anything that you told me and I haven't said a word, so I too staret a friendly relation with her so we both are now on to each other; The thing is that she is 19 and I'am 57 I'am 38 year older so I don't know whether to make this a more and stronger relationship or just let it be????? would it be a wrong thing??? because of the age differance??? Thank You; Dear Cupid.....MaWe
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reader, MaWe +, writes (12 November 2008):
MaWe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Eve; Thank You for your answer to my question....I know
She's a young lady 19 years of age and barely an adult she is also very mature mentaly; I think that I'm more scare then she is, cause I have never dated with such age gap.... Yes she is also a Sagittarius and she does LOVE her FREEDOM and all of the beauty that life have to offer her in her youth at this moment and for the future of her adult hood; Sure she is probably experimenting and maybe nothing more, I have no intention in molding her ways or restricting her of her freedom or anything like that; For I truely enjoy, and like her as she is and I love to see that she will be enjoying the attention and flirting and fun from me; I'm looking forward to give her a birthday surprise party at the job I know that she will be over welmm, also on her birthday card I would ask her to pick anything she would want todo on her Birthday and what ever her wants, or what ever she choose to do; That is what we'll do. I think I would spoil her in agood kind away..I know that I would be truely hurt if I invest in all of my imotions and want to tie her down, like all for me, and for me, and only for me...No not at all her freedom and her love for life and her youth and all of her beautiful quality that God have giving her, I would not trump over.. Thanks I'm not a Aquarius don't know how they think about love??? Me I'm the balance of love I'm a Libra.. the only investment that I would invest is TIME and I have plenty of that, Money that I have realy no love for, that comes and go only use it to pay bills, necessity or to get by with parking tickets etc... I can't take it with me when my time comes.. So that kind of physical materialistic investment would not hurt me at all... "NOW" emotianily if I involve myself to deeply??? "YES" Eve that would break my heart....Eve I don't understand what you ment when you wrotte "I know that from experience."????....Like to Thank You Again for answering my asking question...Stay in tab and I'll let you know how are thing developing...Thank You...MaWe
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reader, MaWe +, writes (12 November 2008):
MaWe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, agony uncle chris, Thank You for your answer I rated very HIGHLY..... I think it staret as a FLING but I do feel that I could make it work for the best of things I would like to keep it flirting, flingling, mysteriously, eyebrows raised for I have found the best of advisers in DearCupid and I like to "THANK YOU ALL" in bringing me through this... No I think she has no problem with the age difference, and Yes that is what I am striving tours her intrest in something in anything.... Sure I am building a very strong love foundation with all of the EXCELLENT ADVICE from each and everyone of YOU "MY DEAR CUPID ADVISER" I want for you to know the the awarenes of a gold digger after my money! Is and will be apply to my love foundation.... Like to Thank You Again for your advice and I'll stay in contact to let you know how is all going.... Thank You... MaWe.
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reader, MaWe +, writes (12 November 2008):
MaWe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi young lady; I like to Thank You for your answer is Excellent.I Too have always found to be attracted to younger women after my 28 birthday "I DON'T KNOW WHY THAT IS?, BUT THAT IS THE WAY IT HAVE BEEN!" I use to play House Dr when I was a little boy don't realy remember ages back then?, we were all young give or take a few years; Also at the age of 10-12 and all through my teen I had lots of CRUSH, and FLING, EXPERIMENTING & so on AGAIN give or take a few years, for all teens look alike hard to guess the age in that bracked: At the age of 20 I continue with my first true girl friend my true puppy love from my teen that is when age came into vission we both were 20 she was a few month younger at the age of 24 we married had a baby boy soon after that we separeated he is a grown man know mid 30 or so?? "she was my first true girl friend and love one" I continue on in life meeting other ladys never younger then 18 but never older then me at the age of about 30 or 32 I had TWO great relationship with a much older women in their mid 40 early 50 for a year or so but during that realationship, I would catch myself admiring younger women I guess I must have been extreamly discreat for they never had to escolt me on the topic....After all of that was over; I found myself dating younger women by a big gaps of age difference but never with this gap of 38 years....In you situation is a gap of 19-20 years??? at 40 I look 20....Now at 57 I look 40 sure other people could see that difference as to young & old but they could eat the cake trying to guess weather I'm 40?? or 57?? years of age.... You mention that you are a 19 year old female, and that you have always found to be attracted to older men "WHY???" This is what I need to know the why???... Also that you are currently and privately seeing a 40 year old; "WHAT DO YOU MEAN BUY??? " CURRENTLY & PRIVATELY"????? And have you ever dated anyone over the age of 40?? and if so what would be the most age gap that you have dated??? I realize also that you are very mature for your age for you are open minded and you realy know what you like and want out of life...Me like You also don't see anything wrong with the age difference. as long as we both get along, and respect each other just as you have mention for sure all is good... Now the thing is this; Have you dated Men your age??? or give or take a year or so, in your age bracked??? There is so much more that I like to ask you cause you would be the one that could truely answer most of my questions??? not much through experience of the long pass experience, but of the true & leaving experience of the actual moment in time.... maybe next time. Hey anonymous Young Lady Thank You for responding to my ask question I'm so glad that you did...MaWe.
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reader, agonyunclechris  +, writes (11 November 2008):
 hi, i personally think its a fling, she is just experimenting. just dont get your hopes up.
if she is interested in something she will tell you, if she isnt bothered about the age difference neither should you. just watch she isnt a gold digger after your money! goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): well im a 19 year old female, and i have always found to be attracted to older men... i am currently privately seeing a 40 year old. i have been told by many people that im very mature for my age.
i dont see anything wrong with age difference. as long as you both get along, and respect each other, all is good
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): I wonder how come Mr.Mawe's English and spelling improved all on a sudden?
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reader, MaWe +, writes (11 November 2008):
MaWe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi anonymous, Thank You so very much with that Excellent thought "YES" She's over 18, and her birthday is coming up this month on the 28 she will be 20, I'll be giving her a surprise party at work, and invite her out to what ever makes her happy it's a open invitation for her to choose whatever she likes or wants to do. Like you said it's only wrong if I feel its wrong, well I did in the beginning I also did worry about what others would think; Well not any more like you said if I'am not hurting anyone and we are not... Like to Thank You Again for the excellent advice. will let you know how things are or will be turning out for us.....MaWe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): Mr.Mawe you may be a bad speller.But you are a gentleman and quite a nice person.I think can speak for other aunts/uncles as well.Ratings don't mean anything to us.we are here for helping nice people like you.I sure hope she doesn't end up hurting you.crossing my fingers and toes for you
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reader, MaWe +, writes (11 November 2008):
MaWe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi qcumbr1 + ?, Hey; I must say all readers that have answered my ask question??? I have rated "EXCELLENT" I have too!! all of your answers are right on point... Look at you right to the point,True!! if she is over looking our age difference why should we worry.... I also like to Thank You for advising me with the warning that there might be some eyebrows raised by her friends and family, and I would be expecting that; I will pass your advice to her as well so that it doesn't take us as a surprise... Thank You Again for being well advance and open minded. I'll Talk to her and find out just what her interests are with me, as you have requested then I'll for sure go from there.. will stay in contact to keep you up to date in our adventue....MaWe.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (11 November 2008):
 She's 18/19 and barely an adult. She's also a Sagittarius which means she LOVES her freedom! She's experimenting nothing more. She will be enjoying the attention and flirting from you but it won't go anywhere, I know that from experience. Sure, give her a birthday surprise but as was mentioned earlier by Bugs, don't invest in her or you'll end up hurt (unless you're an Aquarius).
~Eve~
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reader, MaWe +, writes (11 November 2008):
MaWe is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi Bugs +, and with a heart to you. Like to thank You very much a answer from a female reader means a world of knowleadge to me...I'am sure that she is goen through the phase of being attraccted to me as that older men in her life, I think and believe she has made a excellent choice in choosing me for her esperimental phase, Not to brag; For my 57 years, I'm a bad speller but quit actractive...I hope is not just a roll in the hay,although it probably is I'am looking forward to a greater time, lots of fun and a excellent relationship for both of us... "don't mind being in the barn, I know that I would do very well there.." But in my heart and feelings I want for us to make this once in a life time experiece work....YES YOUR ADVISE WILL NOT BE FORGOTTEN it's and will be the foundation of my dreams and decires and I'll not invest myself emotionally and with your advise as my foundation the love and happines will grow unconditionaly....Thank You Again. Her birthday is coming up this month on the 28...will keep tab and let you know how all is working out for us.....MaWe.
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reader, MaWe +, writes (11 November 2008):
MaWe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Danielepew + ?, Thank You for your answer; Is truly a excellent one...I also realize that the two of us are in a very different, stages of our life; The thing is that her ways and her flirts makes me feel good inside and each day of my life even brighter??? I realy don't know what is on her mind???? I'm kind of affraid in asking, so stray forward about what is realy on her mind, I might or could be reading her nice and kind sexy ways wrong??? but I don't think so; cause I kind little like flirt with hinting words with her and "no red flag by her" sure it would make sense to find out what she realy wants and I'am trying to get to that subject in a around about way more like giving her time for her to actualy break that ice..I wouldn't like it, to be Just a "roll in the hay"..Now I know I would do realy well in the barn??? I would prefer a realy good relationship for both of us; She is far from clueless about the real life she is 18 in age but a women at heart, an has a well advance mentality.. "MONEY" I don't think is her greed, in my case Money realy dosn't make to much of a different for it goes back and forth "HAPPINES" for both of us, is realy what is important and what ever Money goes around is for both of us. it's implemented to the fun and good happy times that I could bring into her life as much as for me...Thank You Again... I'm new to this site I have other advisers that I would like to thank too... Her birthday is coming up on the 28 0f this month I'am preparing a surprise birthday party for her at work,, Will let you know how things are goen along...MaWe.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 November 2008):
 Personally, I wouldn't go for her. You two are in very different stages of life. At your age, you know this wouldn't work. It's always nice to feel that young flesh can be yours, but that's about it.
We don't know what is on her mind. Maybe it would make sense to find out what she really wants. Is it a "roll in the hay", or is she clueless about real life? It would be easiest and least damaging if that were all she wanted. But we don't know.
I also need to say that sometimes girls this age have one thing in mind, and it's not sex, or your cool grey hair, or the fact that you're a real gentleman and not an airhead like the boys her age. Does the word "money" makes you think of something?
I think I wouldn't bother to find out. If she were 45 and I were 57, like you, I wouldn't even stop to think about chasing her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): At 19 girls experiment.They go through the "I am attracted to older men" phase.Most probably all she wants is a roll in the hay.Please do not invest yourself emotionally.
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