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writes:So I'm just starting a relationship with this girl. we like each other and like spending time with one another. the thing i like most is that i have this certain feeling of peace around her, so i know there is something there. the thing i worry about is that we don't really talk for a long time. i'm used to talking on phones or the internet for hours lol. is this a bad sign? i seem to have no problem with my words but she seems like she has nothing to say. is she being shy? is there something i can do to make her talk more?
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reader, Karlos Omnis  +, writes (29 October 2007):
 It's sometimes argued that if you can be in each others company without saying and be comfortable with it, is when you're at your happiest
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): Don't you think it's good you don't speak sometimes and your relaxed in each other company? She may just be really quiet naturally or just shy around you, have you seen her with her family? does she talk alot with them or is she quiet? I talk loads to my family, back chat and everything but with freinds I'm much more quiet.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (29 October 2007):
Believe me i used to get upset with my gal at 1st but now she can make me talk even though i don't want to.She's definitely shy.Women have this complex nature around them.The more comfortable she is around you,the more she'll open up.If you want to speed up this process,be patient and show that she can trust you and you'll be amazed how much she'll open up.Women want to trust and be comfortable around their partners and sadly time plays a major role in the prcess.Dude as much as she may enjoy phone talk.Visit her more often.Just being around you will also make her more comfortable around you.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (29 October 2007):
 She's just shy but I'm sure she enjoys your company just the same. The more she gets to know you, the more she'll come out of her shell. Ask her more about her as women like to talk about themselves. The more talkative you are the more she'll respond. You'll be able to tell by her body language whether or not she likes you but because you feel at peace with her tells me you have nothing to worry about here.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): I'm with Egghead and Jon with this one.
She trusts you, or at least realises you can't change a person. They are what they are.
Be careful not to overstep your boundaries, you are running around with no lead.
It would be a shame to loose this gem. She makes you feel good without even talking.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (29 October 2007):
Not everyone is talkative. Some people are just quiet by nature and this may be ur gf. How is she around her friends or family? If she doesnt talk much more around them either I would say she probably has a quiet nature, butt if she is super talkative aorund them then maybe she is shy around you, not sure what to say etc.
If she is shy, then it will take some time for her to become less shy around you. If she is just queit then I doubt this will change and I hope that you dont want her to change either, because is she has a quiet nature that is who she is.
Try asking her lots of questions so she has something to talk about.
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reader, superhoopschick +, writes (29 October 2007):
 you could encourage her by asking questions but alot of the time body language will stand out. if you two are interested in each other it doesnt matter. sometimes you feel obligated to talk. but if you are use to talking all the time start talkin to your friends on advice. because they know more how she acts towards you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): I dated a girl for 6 months and I'm just like you - talks alot, outgoing, always trying to keep the conversation "alive." I asked my self the same question. The answer I realized is that she is content. She is happy and doesn't need to always say alot - she trusts you. That's my understanding. Hope this helps. You can email me if u need to - [email address blocked]
-Jon
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