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writes:I just had a random conversation with my ex and the topic of sex with her new guy haphazardly came up, and she said that he annoys her all the time and if it wasn't for how big his penis was, he would've been gone a long time ago. She also said that sex with him is the "best ever". Now she probably did this unintentionally as she is quite shallow, rude, and insensitive to the feelings of everyone who isn't her (hence why she's an ex), but when she said this I did feel a little bit as though a gnome had kicked my heart. If that makes any sense. Two minutes after she said it, I was cool, but still it kind of hurt my feelings a little bit, she was my "First" so I wasn't as experienced as her and my penis is only 5 1/2, I don't even know why I'm still thinking about it. I guess its only natural to feel a bit hurt when a girl you were in love with for a year is enjoying sex with someone else she tells you he's the best. Even though Im not still in love with her that T.M.I did upset me for a bit and make me question myself and my penis...any thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2008): Dude, she is crazy! Do yourself a favor and don't answer her phone calls anymore. You've got some experience now, and you know what to look for & to avoid now when going into your next relationship. I think she did say that just to try & make you jealous/ get a reaction out of you. By the way 5.5 " is normal, it isn't small.
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reader, Solidus +, writes (23 September 2008):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the question Wow, yeah you may be right. I used to be really in love with her, but after I came to terms with the sort of person she is all my love just sort of evaporated over time. (She treated me really badly and we broke up) I told her I didn't want to talk to her anymore and for a little while she obliged then she started calling me again. Because I'm finally over her and most of the stuff she says doesn't effect me anymore I just figured I wouldn't ever call her, but would talk to her and be friendly if she calls (which is almost everyday)
She says weird stuff to me like "I'm going to be at your wedding and I don't care what you think...I WILL be the bride" and I asked where her new b/f would be and she said "Under a bench somewhere" These are direct quotes, btw. She also tells me I should "Come visit" her for whatever reason I don't know.
I'm not an expert on these things clearly, only had one g/f thus far and she was my first, but I'm pretty sure you're not supposed to talk to your ex boyfriend everyday and complain about your new one. Who I doubt knows our past history or would approve if he did.
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reader, SereneGal476 +, writes (23 September 2008):
 She did it to make you jealous, no doubt about it. Screw her and her boyfriend's big penis. (heh, not literally) And, for the record, if she is as shallow and idiotic as she sounds, you shouldn't let it phase you at all. So what if you don't have a third leg? It's the size that it's supposed to be and you should be happy with it. Don't even bother responding to her when she says things like this. Just pretend like she isn't even talking. In my opinion, you should stop talking to her and find a girl that is actually worth your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): ew, why would she tell you this? don't let her tell you this stuff. that's her business. maybe she's trying to get you jealous though. that's what it sounds like. don't even worry about it. tell her to go have fun and move on.
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reader, littlesuziepie +, writes (23 September 2008):
 She totally said that to hurt you. How insensitive of her. We all know how hard it is to hear about sex with a new partner being the old one.
Don't talk to her anymore. Really!
She probably doesn't even have a man right now. Or if you know she really does he probably has a small penis and isn't using it on her.
I can picture this as the reason your conversation went down hill and I could be wrong but.....
She is talking to you so we all know she still likes you. She talks about sex to see if you still want her. You don't respond as she wanted making advances toward her and or commenting on how good she was...so she now has to pretend she just wanted to comment on her new sex life.
Exactly! Tacky! Tasteless and mean.
Chalk it up as her little green monster kicking your ego.
Don't let her get you down because there will be others after her and if your a good man and know how to kick up the romance and passion it doesn't really matter how big your stuff is. I mean that. Love can do powerful things and so can your gnome when he is in love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): Wow, why even talk to her?
Personally, I think she said those things on purpose - to try and hurt your feelings. I'm thinking you may have hurt her in some way and this is her way of getting back.
If I were you, I would not think twice about her petty, little comments. I can almost guarantee that she said it to purposefully hurt you, to make you second guess yourself.
Clearly she knows that she was your first and she wants to make sure that you feel insecure going into another relationship (and if you're in one, she wants you to worry). Wow, she's just messed up. Don't pay any attention to her.
I also think she may still have feelings for you, otherwise why even speak to you? If you don't mind me asking, do you still have feelings for her?
Hope this helps and good luck!
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