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writes:My girl friend broke up with me and I have been trying to get her back. I tell her i cant live without her and i always remind her of how much i love her, she then calls me pathetic, what should i do now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): I am going through something similar. I've been with my gf 1 1/2. She's a gemini and changes her mind alot. One day we're talking about moving in together, the next day we're having an argument. Granted, I wasn't always the trusting person and if you know my life you would say its understandable. I try to learn fm my mistakes and I treated this woman really good for the most part. No major arguments or anything like that. I thought if I showed affection, hold her hand, listen, basically I showed her I wanted to be with her. Well, somewhere along the way things slipped away. I'm having a really hard time with it. I've been married twice befor over the last 21 yrs and never showed my ex's as much affection and love (in my opinion) as her..and now its over. How does one get over it. its been 5wks and I still hurt. The only thing I can tell you is its morning now, the Sun is out / shining and I'm going to go out and try to enjoy it. I hope you can do the same. You're not Pathetic my friend, You're Human. Don't feel bad that you have loved her, feel good that you didn't waste more time on someone that didn't really love you back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007): hello... i recently got dumped by my gf too... but i personally think that ur wasting ur time... shes being a bitch... and disrespectng you... people dont change easily... you will get more of this if you o ge back together
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reader, mum2be  +, writes (27 February 2007):
I know it will be hard, but she is clearly not interested, and i think you need to move on. You are still young, and there are plenty oof lovely girls out there who would treat you better.
Was there a trust issue in the relationship? or were you just drifting apart?
Either way, she appears to hav moved on, and you should too.
If she see's you with another woman it will do one of two things:
1: it will make her realise that she misses you and wants you back or
2: She will be glad that you have moved on and it will reinforce her belief that she was write about the split.
Either way, i know it will be difficult, so good luck to you!
xxx
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reader, xkimx +, writes (27 February 2007):
 dont just tell her show her she may not be able to trust you now or maybe she has gone off of you because you want her back now and you didnt care because ,you hate it whens it there but u miss it when its gone ,make the most of it and dont take advantage of what you've got or you will lose it for good
good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): When some people fall out of love, or simply no longer want to date someone, they can not cope with dealing with the emotional responsibilities of giving the other partner proper closure and so act in in a defensive way that your ex is doing.
Sadly your ex-girlfriends behaviour shows that she does not love you and the longer you keep showing her your vulnerable side, the more she will hurt you, it is a behaviour designed to get you out of her life quickly and painlessly.
I think when a relationship has reached the stage of someone calling the other person pathetic, it is clear going seperate ways is long overdue.
And of course you can live without her, so, stop being pathetic, surprise yourself at how strong you really are. Accept she does not want you to be in her life, and then accept that you want a girlfriend who can return love to you. The sooner you move on from this relationship, the sooner you will start to feel much better about yourself.
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reader, Carina  +, writes (27 February 2007):
 I know you're feeling very hurt and broken hearted but this girl doesn't appreciate you. You've shown her your feelings and told her you love her and she's calling you 'pathetic'. That's an uncaring and unkind thing to say to anyone. If you really love her then I think you need to move away from her for a while. Do other things to keep your mind off her. Go out with your friends and have a good time. Show her that you CAN live without her. At the moment she is seeing you as a weak person, so show her you are strong. You'll be surprised at how strong you can actually be. However, if I was you I'd move on completely and find someone you deserve, who appreciates you and loves you back. I'm sure you'll be a lot happier in the long run. Good luck.
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