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writes:In an effort to express and vent, release my story and pain out there and possibly with hope, get a bit of healing in return, I am posting this painful thread here.Her and I were real, serious. Just a few weeks ago, we spoke of marriage, life together. She'd expressed her undying love and proclaimed misery for life if we were to ever be apart. That was then.Countless emails (because we live in different states) in my followup, requests and undying burning desire for her to come home to me, her emails and all correspondence had ceased. Hours, days, weeks had gone-by, and not a word. She'd disappeared, vanished. Left me alone on Christmas, for the holidays, to ponder in agony and in pain on what in the world had happened.Needless to say, this has transformed me into a bitter individual for now, dug-in deeply in my own universe, antisocial and miserable.I've never seen or heard anyone do anything like this to anyone ever, not even in movies. Who abandons the person they love and proclaim a need and desire to spend a life together, hopes of marriage, on Christmas, more than anything?This is me venting; I thank anyone who cares to glance at this, for my words are short.Merry Christmas everyone.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 December 2009):
 Sad, but I agree with q1605. Maybe she's married, or has another guy, or whatever. Sorry to be this direct, but, don't put any hopes on her. She isn't coming back.
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reader, Heartbroken4Life +, writes (27 December 2009):
Heartbroken4Life is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, Libra1963.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (27 December 2009):
 I had to learn the hard way that long distance relationships do not tend to work. I feel your pain. Christmas is always a difficult time for relationships, believe me I have been there!
You did not say how long you have know this woman. It sounds strange that she has just disappeared like that.
She may be encountering problems in her live and just needs space. It did sound a little too heavy the way you both were talking about undying love. Its good to love someone but you must hold back a little for yourself. I have learn never to love anyone more than yourself. This prevents you from severe pain when break ups happen.
Leave the situation for a couple of days and if she has not contacted you, write her a letter expressing your concern. You do not know what's happened. I would not take it so personally at the moment.
Appear strong and in control. If you are all emotional it may well put her off. When you do write, dont send it straight away. Leave it for a while and then revisit it to ensure it is reflecting exactly what you want to say in a strong manner. We women are attracted to strong men who are in control to look after us not emotional wrecks!
Get out with some friends and try not to think about her so much. Time does heal and there are many other fish in the sea.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): Maybe she hasn't left you. Not willingly....
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