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*attUK
writes:I have recently started seeing this great girl, the relationship is going well and the sex is great. However, there is one thing that I feel a little awkward talking to her about.She is fortunate in that she can orgasm very easily, literally just a few minutes of oral or a bit longer with penetrative sex. Absolutely no problem there and before anyone says anything I am fairly sure she is not faking anything. So getting down to the crux of the matter, female ejaculation. Every time she orgasms she also ejaculates, I don't have any problem with this and in fact take it as a compliment that she can be sufficiently relaxed and confident in my company for this to happen. However, it does mean having to wash the sheets and mattress cover every day which is getting to be a bit of a nuisance.I would like to suggest that perhaps we spread a towel on the bed before sex but one thing is for sure, that's likely to be a passion killer. More importantly though, I don't want her to think that I have any issue with her ejaculations and certainly don't want her to feel uncomfortable about it.As I write this I can see that the answer is probably just to buy more sheets but if any of you have any thoughts then please fire away.
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reader, MattUK +, writes (9 February 2009):
MattUK is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for the advice. Various large towels are now being put to good use. Didn't turn out to be any problem at all so I guess it was me just worrying over nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009): Hello darlin -
NOTHING is wrong with telling her that. I do the same thing during sex and I got tired of the mess. Before sex - we put a towel on the bed. My husband is blown away at my ability to do this because not all women can. So YAY to her and go ahead and when she asks you why you are putting the towel down - just let her know that her mind blowing sex is a total turn on and you are both so messy - a towel is needed! My hubby and I make it fun. The best thing about a good sexual life with your mate is being able to talk about that stuff.
Cheers!
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (8 February 2009):
 just a thought to throw in the bucket ... (pun not intended)will you be re-using the towel for the next day's sex? will you keep a few towels in the dirty laundry basket until you accumulate enough dirty towels for a load of wash? conserve water! :-) and yes, buy more sheets (and towels) LOLCat
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reader, curiouscat  +, writes (7 February 2009):
tell her the truth. its better than support, thats for sure!Just say that we need a towel and make sure she understands everything. And i mean your feelings to...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): Although you obviously could not have forseen this, if you had used a towel all along, I do not think it would have offended her or she would even think twice. Since she already knows that you do not normally use a towel when you have sex, depending on how many women you have been with (I don't know how many exactly my husband has been with, but I could tell right away, I was far from his first!), you may make her feel like some kind of a freak compared to the other women that you didn't have to use a towel with. I think you should do what you have to do, but just say it is all because of your own mess, don't even bring hers up. Just tell her that you always used towels with your ex'es, because you don't like to have to constantly wash sheets, but you are not sure if that is a normal thing guys do and since she is somebody new, you did not want for her to think that you were weird or something. I think doing it this way will make you feel better too. What if you did make her feel bad, how would sex be after that?
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reader, MissKin +, writes (5 February 2009):
 I think you should just tell her that you'd rather put a towel down - ask if it's okay (which it should be, so not a big deal, you both make a mess - you're part of the reason she makes a mess - so it's there to stop you both from making a mess, not just her.) and then just forget the towel is even there.
I INSIST on a towel! I don't want to get the sheets i want to sleep on afterwards messy lol. I'm sure she'll understand. Just be gentle about it, reassure her that you're not turned off by the mess and that you do find it sexy and you don't think it's 'abnormal' (i think the anonymous post is just ... wrong and don't like their advice.) and it shud all be great.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (5 February 2009):
a towel is the only thing you can do. i watched this documentary where loui theroux went to some american brothel and they put towels on the beds before sex, not a passion killer for those paying men. i know we can't really compare a brothel to your bed and your gf is not a hooker. but it's a simple thing to do and i'm sure she wont care if it's there or not. just make sure it is soft and not an old rough towel.lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): Lot of couples in your situation do this! don't feel like youre offending her, youre doing the correct thing.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (5 February 2009):
 as a gay man i would not see the point of cumming all over the bed every time. avoiding it would be a necessity so preventing it should be a good thing. before anal sex you put a towel down because you dont want any of that shit getting on your bed, the principle is the same.
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