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writes:I slept with a guy on our first date! Now he seems distant..We have only really known each other a month but the instant we met online he lived near, attractive it was like we was made for each other.. he instantly give me his number and got on so well..this weekend i met him when i was out.. we had a lot of fun chilled had a laugh, I got a little too drunk and went back to his.. we ended up sleeping with one another but whilst he was there he wouldn't stop telling me how beautiful i was and how amazing i was, we both as i was leaving agreed it was pretty soon but it didnt matter and that we would go on a date (which is supposed to be tomorrow) and get to know each other more.. so i left.. and we both texted each other saying how amazing i was and i was better than he thought.. and kept calling me sexy and mwah ing in texts.. he text me yesterday before he left for work but now (on his day off) i have heard nothing! I was the one who left the ball in his court last night.. explaining he was off so didn't want to disturb him.. and to text me when he can.. so i don't know how a day after now he hasn't been in touch? and i don't wanna make the first move to make another convo..? the date is supposed to be tomorrow? do i just text him telling him i can make it and if he still wants to go? or do i just wait to see if he contacts me? I just hate how even after he had slept with me he was still chatty now two days later.. nothing? am i over reacting?
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (7 January 2010):
 See, for you and for all who are on dating, I am presenting here some out line of principle, that will guide to decide when the time is up for sex.
1.The meaning of sex is pleasure.
2.Relationship is just to achieve the meaning of sex: Pleasure.
3.But, sex should and must not be used to earn anything like...money, power or even relationship, because such use is misuse and bring lot of emotional hurt, trouble, and discredit.
5.So, relation for sex should be determine on basis of some standard laid down by particular person [ by he or she] Such standard should include details like, education-intellectual wave length-physical appearance-personal nature-manner-etc etc etc
6.On dating one should be observant of all details, and check its degree of matching...when one found that requirement of standard is completely matched, then one can decide for sex [FOREPLAY]
If anyone choose above standard, never face any emotional hurting or degrading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): You are human and you made a human mistake. I do not think it is a good idea to sleep with a guy on the first date. However, you did. I would assume you are on for the date. Send a casual text to confirm the date. If you do not hear back you have learned a valuable lesson. Good luck!
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 Well, its never a good idea to sleep with a guy on the first date. It doesn't leave much incentive for him to pursue you if he "gets lucky" on the first date, with very little effort........but what's done is done. If you do go out with him again, as CaringGuy said, don't sleep with him again (at least not until you've been dating for a month or so). He doesn't need to get the impression (unjustified and unfair as it might be) that you're "too easy."
You have a date coming up. See if he contacts you this evening, and if he does not, send him a text in the morning to ask how he's doing and are you both still going out tomorrow........good luck!
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reader, shania +, writes (5 January 2010):
 Little Red Corvette by Prince...brilliant song but listen to the lyrics,there's a meaning to it.You are moving too fast..you have slept with this guy after 1 date...now the mystery has vanished...whats left? You have skipped the "Getting to know you 1st"...If you are keen on a fella and want a proper,meanful relationship then get to know him first..make him your friend before you jump into bed with him....let the guy have some emotional connection before the physical....If you do hear from him tmw then hold up on the sex...if you dont hear from him after that...then you will know he was only after one thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): i know the feeling hun, they get what they want then f*ck off! :( x
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (4 January 2010):
I really think that it's all in your head. He's been distant for a day??? And you two slept together a couple nights ago? You told him that you didn't want him to bother on his day off and to text you while he can...you do realize you told him to not worry about contacting you on his day off, right?
Seriously it's not a big deal. Quit worrying so much and quit doing the whole "leaving the ball in his court" and afraid to make contact deal because it's not just up to him to make contact. I know everything is new, but you kind of gave everything up already, so it's not like you have much to lose.
Just text him later today and just say, "Hey how's your day off? I was just thinking about you and wanted to say hi." Put whatever you want in it or change whatever you want, but seriously doing something like that once isn't going to be detrimental to what's going on. Whether you say that or not he's either planning to continue with the date or cancel regardless.
I think if things really changed after sex, he wouldn't have spoken to you at all.
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reader, daletom +, writes (4 January 2010):
To be honest, it sounds like you two moved too fast. You have both compromised your principles and now regret it. It takes a lot of courage to admit this to each other. It's difficult, but not impossible, to go back to the "before sex" relationship, pretend it never happened, and work forward from there.
On the other hand - it sounds like your relationship is mostly about the physical attraction of sex. If that's the case, it may be better to chalk it up as a "hard lesson learned" and step away from it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 January 2010):
You won't know until your next date. Text him and remind him a out it then see how he acts. Just be sure not to sleep with him again, in case he thinks he can use you.
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