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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and get along pretty great. I am in love with him and I know he is with me. When we first met, we used to have sex frequently, now it is maybe once every 3-4 months. I would like to be with him more but he seems so stressed or tired. This has been going on for 1.5 years about (most of this relationship. It got to the point where I feel rejected so I gave up even trying to turn him on. Sometimes it makes me feel so bad I wonder if something is wrong and if I should stay in this relationship. I do everything to make hime feel attractive and loved, I just wonder why he doesn't do the same for me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Wildberries +, writes (29 May 2005):
Maybe try being a little less accessible. Go have a life without him for a while ( not a sexual one). The lure of the things we cannot have can be very persuasive. It could be he has gotten just a little too comfy in this relationship. But frankly if it has been less than two years and HES not interested, I think this is a real problem that is not likely to change.
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (28 May 2005):
I don't know your man, but you say he loves you. If you talk about it and he says it's not you, maybe it isn't. Maybe he just has problems getting it up (the physical side) or feeling lust (the mental one). Before you break up with him, at least see if he'll try some pills for it. He'll realize what he's been missing. I know it's hard for the person in the relationship who DOES want the sex, because I have felt the rejection you speak of, but don't allow him to make you feel worthless. If you do feel worthless, then find someone else. You're gonna make some man very happy if this one falls through.
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reader, star3482 +, writes (28 May 2005):
Why dont you ask him to see a doctor about his lack of sex drive? If it's bothering you now then it will only get worse with time. I'd speak to him about it and tell him that if you dont get it with him, you'll have to get it elsewhere!
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reader, alison +, writes (28 May 2005):
You should definitely stay with him if you both love each other. Talk to him and find out whats bothering him and buy some new sexy underwear just for him and he wont be able to resist.good luck
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