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writes:what if you can't stand being married to the person you've married. what if after years of being married you realize that you've made a mistake. what if your marriage has turned out to be that you thought you could change the person you married, what if don't sleep together anymore and haven't in ten years. what if you've fallen in love with her sister. what if her sister stays over for the weekend and you miss her when she's gone. what if you're really truly in love with her and want to marry her and divorce your wife. i love and am in love with her. i don't know what to do. i wish i had the courage to tell her how i feel about her. i wish i had the courage to kiss her. i wish i wasn't living with regret for not even trying.you see i have secretly been in love with my wife's sister, but i haven't told her. now i am hurting so bad, and regreting every time i don't tel her. this has been going on for over a year. i have never loved or cared about anyone more in my life. i hope this makes sense. i hope someone can help me. i hope one day my wife's sister will be my wife.
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reader, demitrius +, writes (15 January 2009):
Well it is very possible that you could be in love with her and to tell you the truth it is a very tough situation but sometimes you have to make sacrafices for your child and her asswell, i know that the felling for her sister might be overwhelming at times ive been through the same ordeal hopefully you will understand that its something you have to let go of you will surely destroy part of the family, i mean in my situation she was married to and i could also see and fell that she had feelings for me asswell but be strong good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): Hi my friend, i see what you've been dealing with here.I understand perfectly what you've been going through, because i do have the same problem.I got married last year with the women that i was going out with for 10 years. I'm 30 yrs old and she's 29 yrs old.Her younger sister is 23 yrs old, i saw her growing and i can tell she's a hot good looking girl, very smart she's everything i've always dreamed of. But the problem is that she's my Wife's sister...I'm deeply in love with her but can't say a word. I'm totaly confuse but i don't thing it is the write thing to do, if telling her I love YOU!!, that will cause more problems.The best thing will be to work and save my marriage or if i truly can't do it, i think i'll have to say one day to my wife that i don't love her anymore and would have to divorce her.We must stay patient and try to move on, because i know if this is happening to us now, it is because we don't have feelings anymore for our wifes, and maybe we can be in love one day with another women, other than the sister. My sugestion to you is to stay patient and maybe something good will come, maybe will have to avoid the sister, see her less i know it's hard but we have to face it. Good luck to you and let me know what you think about it!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): You are not in love with your wife's sister, you are just in lust with her and excited because she is someone new who you are attracted to. If you were married to the sister for 10 years you would probably be crushing on your wife again. Marriage is something you have to work at. The sister seems so wonderful and enticing because you haven't lived with her and gotten to know all of her annoying habits like you have you wife. The saying is true, the grass always seems greener on the other side. Save everyone a bunch of hurt and realize this is not always the case. And if I were you I probably wouldn't tell my sister-in-law that I was in love with her. If's she's like the rest of us she would think that is totally gross. If you want out of your marriage find someone who's not invited to your family reunions.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (26 January 2008):
 The last time that you slept with you wife is when you were 15 after 10 years of marriage? Are you from the backwoods or do we have the wrong figures here? Could we have some more details please?
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (26 January 2008):
 Well first off if you think you have made a mistake marrying her then yeah you need to get out if you truly feel this way. But you need to tell your wife in a calm sensative manner that wont make things worse then things already will be.And do not tell her that you are in love with her sister. That would be like dropping the worlds largest house on top of her. That would be worse then telling her your in love with your co-worker by all means both hurt but the fact that its someone she is related to and she has to deal with very often would also cause tension between them as well.Well i am not you and i cant make this decision for you but i would not recomend dating her sister that would like i stated before cause tension between the three of you and make things worse and make all of you uncomfortable. And if you do try to date her or something wait a while and just say its something that came along later. And it wasnt the reason you left your wife.I hope you can work all of this out good luck!
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