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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (15 March 2012):
It sounds like you're not too keen on having sex yourself. If this is not a road you're ready to go down yet then DON'T. Giving up your virginity is not something to take lightly. If you know you do love him and you want to have sex, then tell him you're scared and ask him to be gentle, if he loves you he will do this for you.If he is forcing you to have sex don't let him, if he breaks up with you because you won't have sex then let him, he would be a dick to do that to be honest. Good luck!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 March 2012):
 It hurts of you don't really want sex yourself. And from your post it doesn't sound like you want sex... So yes, it probably will hurt for you. If your body and mind aren't ready to have sex then it will not be a pleasurable experience for you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (14 March 2012):
 "my boyfriend wants"
that's nice.
what do YOU want?
if you are that scared then you are NOT ready.
so tell me are you really 18 or older???
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reader, Vainfall +, writes (14 March 2012):
 I am not sure how you view this but my opinion on the subject is that both of you have to regard sex in a less literal way in order to have it come naturally. Given what I've said, it won't hurt at all, it will actually be really pleasurable:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2012): It's unknown to you of course you are going to be scared.
It's probably not the act in its self you are scared of but the unknown.
The first time I had sex it didn't hurt as such it was just a little bit uncomfortable.
I wont patronise you with all the "legal age" & "safe sex" nonsense because you've probably heard it a million times and I'm sure that you are senceable enough to know that safe sex is the best sex.
Enjoy =)
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (14 March 2012):
Just keep searching on DC, you will find loads on this topic. But the thing you need to remember is to have sex when YOU want to, not someone else persuading you!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (13 March 2012):
 So your boyfriend wants to have sex. Does he have to get everything he wants? If you're scared to have sex, you're not ready and it's OK to tell him to wait and literally to keep his pants on.It can hurt, it doesn't have to though. If you are completely turned on it shouldn't hurt. He should get you close to orgasm before even trying penetration. If he can't bring you to orgasm, then you shouldn't be moving onto sex. Being fully aroused makes your vagina expand and lubricate. The main reason a woman's first time hurts is because she isn't aroused enough. Would you ask a guy to have sex before he's hard? Then you shouldn't expect to have sex before you're fully aroused either. Most women cannot feel their hymen break, that part shouldn't hurt. Other than that, having sex for the first time does not stretch your vagina out or change its shape in any way. The only reason that myth came about is because it can feel like it's being over stretched if you try to have sex when you're not aroused. If you are fully aroused and add lube, your first time shouldn't hurt.
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reader, Wise_little_elf  +, writes (13 March 2012):
 Firstly just to put it out there, make sure you are of the legal age, practice safe sex , and are sure you are ready for it. Sex is usually a little uncomfortable at first, but it generally doesn't 'hurt' . Sex is what makes the world go round, if it wasn't as great as the hype, well literally NONE of us would be here! Enjoy a happy and healthy sex life!
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