A
male
age
30-35,
*ammer69
writes:I really feel bad about hurting my GF. My girl friend likes it when I get rough. like when we have sex or fingering her, she likes it when I really slam her. or she likes to be slammed against the wall sometime. well last weekend I was fingering her and I must not have gotten a nail completely trimmed and she wanted me to be rough and she started bleeding and i really felt bad. and last night I slammed her against the wall and playing around she kinda.....fought back (for lack of better words) and i messed up her wrist and i really feel bad about both of them. She forgave me but I still feel bad about it. should i just say forget it, it was a stupid accident and she forgave me or are my feelings right. should i feel like a complete ass.
View related questions:
fingering Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Ciar  +, writes (30 January 2012):
 Safe words are a good idea, but I suggest you keep it simple. 'Red' 'Yellow' 'green' should suffice. The meanings are universal so they'll come easily to you in the heat of the moment.
A
female
reader, ladyO83 +, writes (25 January 2012):
 sometimes even we dont feel the 'pain" till after the fact...dont feel to bad..i mean things happen especially when you have hard core sex. I love rough sex but sometimes it maybe to much ... i notice bruises all over my body the next day..i bruise very easy tho..one time i bang my head on the wall so hard i went to the er..i was ok tho..just little dizzy..he also felt so bad after but it wasn't his fault i was the one telling him to go harder...and even with my head hurting and spinning we didnt stop! LOL
...............................
A
male
reader, mammer69 +, writes (25 January 2012):
mammer69 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all and when she started bleeding she wasn't hurting. We had dinner early and something didn't agree with me and had to go to the bathroom and that is when I noticed the blood on my hand. But it's not just physical when i hurt her feelings I feel like a complete as too even thought she forgives me like 5 10 minutes later i still feel like an ass, for hours later. but that is a good idea about the safe word. I've hurt her a number of times and she has always forgiven me because they have been accidents and no lie they really were but i usually notice when she is in pain. when i slammed her back against the wall i thought her bracelet just pinched her again i didn't know I hurt her.
...............................
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 January 2012):
 yep a safe word is critical because "don't" and "stop" are part of the game...
I often have scratches and bruises that are a bit hard to explain... we play rough too... I get it...
On the show "Two and a Half Men" the mother's code word is UMBRELLA and there was a whole show about it...we laughed so hard.... the word needs to be something never said in a bedroom scene... blueberries was someone's somewhere...
you should feel bad you hurt her but it was an accident and she has asked you forget about it...
next time make sure your nails are clean and trimmed properly.. we go for couples mani/pedis every month to make sure his nails are neat and trimmed...
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): Its a case of knowing how far to go and no further. A safe word is usually agreed on and used where necessary. So when she says `Cola` or whatever, then you stop what you are doing!
And use your own judgement too. If you know something MUST be seriously hurting her....because it would really hurt you. Then stop.
I think you are becoming a bit uneasy about how rough you are being. If she forgives you all the time, rarely uses the safe word and seems to goad you on when you would sooner stop. Then take a step back and REALLY look at her and the situation you are getting yourself into. She might have some problems that need dealing with and shes `acting out` with you.
So call her on it if you become concerned and dont do anything you find unacceptable. You dont want to get too physically rough with her and end up facing charges or worse.
...............................
A
female
reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (24 January 2012):
 You should be more careful. She might like it rough, but you must realize she is a lady and if you use physical strength on her, you will end up physically hurting her, which is unacceptable. If you are both fine with it, then do what is acceptable but tone it down. Just because she tells you she likes to be slammed against the wall, doesnt mean you literally fling her against it.
Also, I dont really know how this can be a turn on, but I guess to each his own.
...............................
A
female
reader, Domolovescookies +, writes (24 January 2012):
 I think it's great that you feel like an ass : D
... ok... what I mean is that it seems like you really understand that while she may like it rough, she doesnt like being hurt. Some guys tend to mix the two up. You guys need "safe words" ... something she can say that is totally unrelated to sex that tells you to STOP
That way, you will never confuse whether shes really resisting you or not and will reduce the chance of you hurting her.
...............................
|
