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anonymous
writes:Hey all, I'll keep this brief. I have three lady friends at my university. And whenever I see one of them I think: "ooo, I think I like you because your personality is ________________". Or "you're attractive". Then I'll see the next woman maybe 1 or 2 hours later and think the same thing. I think I really want a relationship (i only had 1 before). I know this isn't normal. How do I lose this line of thinking?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (24 January 2012):
 What do you mean this isn’t normal??? Of course it’s NORMAL. You are very NORMAL. You are a young healthy male… you just haven’t met “the one” yet….
There is nothing wrong with dating many women… as long as you are open and honest about the fact that you are not yet ready to make a commitment…
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): Join the club. Date 'em all. That's how you decide whom you like, and who likes you.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (24 January 2012):
 Dont worry about it, I had crushes on more than one guy too, when I was your age. I liked a bunch of losers (yes they were ALL losers!) and thankfully I never acted on it! It was nice just to be silly and stare at them all dreamy eyed!
I think its normal, you'll get over it. Dont rush into a relationship, it will happen with the right person when it has to. When you meet that special someone, you wouldnt be thinking of anyone else. Trust me. Just give it time
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reader, Domolovescookies +, writes (24 January 2012):
 haha
1) it is normal
2) all guys like multiple women... it means you're straight... you're attracted to women.
3) you need to sort out right now whether you seem to develop emotions for more than one, or just lust after more than one
It's ok to lust after many women, you and your partner just have to be clear on whether you are allowed to act on those feelings.
It's actually also ok to be emotionally involved with more than one woman... though... I dont think its very smart... but once again, as long as everyone is on the same page...its ok
-it is never ok to cheat-
That being said....
if you really want to change the way u think:
-if you watch porn, stop.
-focus more on the personality and less on the attractive
-after getting in a relationship, tell urself that it is ok to think a girl is pretty... its not ok to act on it
see where that takes you
goodluck
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