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writes:I am in need of some advice. I recently got back in touch with my first love through facebook and we spent hours talking and texting. I am in the very beginning stages of a divorce and and he is completely single. This is a long distance relationship. He recently took a 13 hour bus trip to see me. We had an incredible passionate night. We immediately connected and it was as though no time had gone by even though it had been nearly 20 years since I had seen him. We get along soo well... I am just confused. He has backed off a lot. I know he is going through some personal stuff right now, but I am not sure what to do. How long is too long to not hear from him before I should get concerned? I have never heard of someone riding a bus for a total of 26 hours for a booty call. He is a very good looking man and can get sex anywhere. I sent him a text that said that if he wanted me to back off just to let him know and that I was ok with being just friends. He quickly responded no and that he was just going through a lot. I am just really missing him. So....basically should I just give it up since he seems to be shutting me out of his life for the time being???
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Hello,
I feel this could be a rebound for you, even though you at one time were a couple. Your going through a divorce you owe it to yourself to take a breather and truly decide what it is you want before plunging back into something.
Are you certain he's not with anyone, ie girlfriend, common-law spouse.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Take it easy. You are coming through a divorce. Could be why you are putting so much hope into this liason. It could well lead on to something, but might not, so you need to keep some perspective. Don't contact him now until he contacts you, you might seem needy and scare him off. Let things take their course. But don't at this stage see too much into this past love, you may get hurt, so give yourself a break and take things as they come for now.
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (31 January 2011):
What is the rush in getting into a relationship with him... you have both gone 20 years without each other. Spend time out on yourself and I think he needs the same too but there is nothing stopping you be friends and building something up in the future if that is what you both want.
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reader, GG96  +, writes (31 January 2011):
My suggestion is, you are going through a divorce and should spend some time being single to reconnect with yourself.
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