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26-29,
anonymous
writes:i think one of my friends is going out with my best friends ex in secret. she walks home with him and on more than one instances ive seen them hugging and holding hands also this weekend i went to the cinema and he was kissing a girl and she had the same coat as my friend but i couldnt tell because her back was turned and he must of told her because she ran off. things have also been awkward between her and my best friends since my best friend still likes her ex and he clearly likes her. does what i described sound like their going out? and should i tell my best friend?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 I'm with the tiger, this is definitely a case of minding your own beeswax. Never get in the middle of crap like this, it only comes back to bite you in the butt.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (31 January 2011):
 The fact that she spends time with him and has been seen hugging him, really isn't enough proof to say for certain that she is romantically involved with your friend's ex. As for the movie incident... that's iffy. You didn't see the girl's face, only her coat, but she did run off, which is strange. I think the most telling sign is that you've witnessed her holding hands with this guy on more than one occassion. Typically, teenage girls don't walk around hand in hand with guys, unless they are somehow involved.
Now I can understand one or two coincidences or misunderstandings, but when you look at the big picture, I think it is likely something is going on between them.
Why haven't you said anything to your best friend already? Are you afraid this other girl will get mad at you? Imagine how hurt your best friend will be if she finds out about this from someone else, and then discovers you knew about this all along? I think you need to have a talk with your best friend immediately, but let her know you don't want your name to get mixed up in this whole mess. If your best friend decides to confront this girl, ask her to leave your name out of it.
Please let us know what happens! Good luck!
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (31 January 2011):
 ok, firstly it is none of your business who anyone is going out with.
Secondly, your best friend and her ex have broken up - that is why they are ex's. If the guy wanted to be with your best friend he wouldn't have broken up with her.
If she cannot accept that, then it is her problem, but it is not your job to go running and telling her. If she finds out via the grapevine so what, but its none of her business directly. She does not need to be told that he is going out with someone else.
This guy has moved on, he is seeing other girls, and you or your best friend cannot stop him. It is not up to you who he dates or takes to the cinema.
To avoid being the bearer of bad news, possibly best to keep the information to yourself.
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reader, ashieebabiee +, writes (31 January 2011):
 okay i hate to give you the truth but it certainly does sound like they are going out and yes i know you should tell your bestfriend but you shouldnt get into the situation because it might start problems if you want you can talk to ur friend and confront her tell her and if they really are than she should tell your bestfriend. your bestfirend still likes her ex but she needs to understand that people move on she should move on instead of going back to the past. hope this helps..goodluck
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