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writes:Hi, guys! I'm just a little torn on what to do here. I've been attracted to my teacher since roughly January. I recently graduated, and since then I've been debating on whether or not I should tell him that I'm attracted to him. I really do want to, if only to get it off my chest, even if nothing happens, but I feel like that would just not end well at all. Side note - I know for a fact that he is single.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): I agree with wiseoldman. You're no longer a student and if he says no it will only hurt for a short time because it means there's someone better for you out there. Good luck! Private message me if you want to talk. I fell in love with a teacher while I was in middle school. I confessed my feelings just to get it off my chest afterwards and that made things totally awkward because we've bumped into each other numerous times. The difference is even though there was always this pull between us neither of us would ever cross the line because he's committed to someone else and he's a good man. Now I'm almost 17 and am currently crushing on his brother who's a teacher at my high school. Unfortunately I still care about my ex teacher from middle school. I can't eat. I can't concentrate to save my life because he's on my mind every second. Not to mention I might as well be classified as an insomniac.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): No, OP it may well be a compliment to hear that from you but its not a good idea. I'm nearly finished training to be a teacher and single or not I want none of that kind of thing. From the teachers I know student crushes are a pain in the ass.
We've pretty much all had them but it's better to let them slide, they go away pretty quickly usually and it's better that way.
It's just not a good idea for a teacher to date a former student anyway, it sends out the wrong kind of message to parents and some places can be seen as a pretty serious thing.
Move on with your life and leave him alone. He's not your teacher anymore and you'll be able to move on from your crush pretty easily. Don't risk complicating his life based on a menial 6 month crush. That's not really worth you 'getting it off your chest' just do what most of us do and forget him. Maybe some time in the distant future say it to him in hindsight if you ever meet him out or something.
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reader, lonelygirl11  +, writes (3 June 2011):
Well as you are no longer a student it is not illegal but would be frowned opon if anything was to happen. But my guess is he will reject you and by telling him you will feel worse if that happens so dont tell him. Pm me if u wanna chat (i still have feelings for a former teacher i had yrs ago)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): Go for it! You`ve left so you are no longer his student,Ive one year left in school and Im going to tell my ex-teacher that Im attracted to him!..whats the worst that can happen?! - all he can say is no and then you will never see him again x
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (3 June 2011):
You're at least 18, so legally an adult, he's single, you're no longer his student and nothing went on when you were- go ahead and good luck!
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