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writes:Hello, I'm 16 and I'm going to have the contraceptive implant today, my mum suggested this but she thinks I'm a virgin. I know my doctor will ask if I'm sexually active and I was wondering will I get into trouble with the law if I tell my doctor I had sex once at 15, or is my doctor unlikely to ask what age I had sex at?Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (18 March 2009):
 The doctor will only ask if your sexually active he wont want to know the details and what you say to the doctor is confidential, however i know several people who have got pregnant on the implant so please remeber to use a condom with each new partner every time you have sex it shouls prevent pregnancy (hopefully) but will not protect against STI's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): Thanks for all your responds.
I want to go alone, but I dont want my mum to think there's something I'm not telling her. Hopefully the doctor won't ask me infront of her.
Thanks again, I appreciate it.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (18 March 2009):
 The doctor cannot tell the police that you had sex at 15 because they have to keep all information confedential. They cant even tell your mum! So dont worry about this, there will be no bad consequences for you in this sense.
You are doing the right thing by going to the doctors to get some birth control, you are being responsible so you should feel good about going rather than feeling bad about it.
I doubt the doctor will ask you what age you had sex at, but they will ask if you are sexually active. So all you need to say is yes I am, and then they will leave it at that. They will probably ask if it is with a long term partner, so you need to be prepared for a bit of a lecture if you are just having casual sex. They will then go on to the safe sex, condoms part of it where again you will be told the dangers of STI's etc etc.
If I were you I would go to the doctors alone, having your mum there will only make you nervous and you might hold back on important information that the doctor asks you for. And I hope you havent made up your mind as to which type of contraceptive you want; the implant is quite invasive whereas the pill or the injection are normally better options for someone your age. Your doctor will talk through your options with you and help you to decide.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (18 March 2009):
 Implants seem to be very effective in preventing pregnancy. At least this one is: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/birth-control-implant-implanon-4243.htm
In comparison with other forms of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
The implant seems to be equivalent to an IUD, and more effective than the shot or pill by a margin.
If you push on the icons of the chart, you can find out more about each type of birth control. It would be a great idea for you to read it over before you go to the doctor's office so that you can ask questions from a foundation of some knowledge.
Be honest with the doctor; I don't know the rules in the UK regarding confidentiality but I think it's highly unlikely you'd get "in trouble" with any authorities.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): They probably won't ask how old you were. But by law doctor's have to keep this information confidential and will only tell your parents if you ask them to.
However, at least from what I've heard, implants aren't terribly reliable. You would probably be better off on the pill or the shot =]
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (18 March 2009):
 If you are going in with your mother, a good doctor will be discreet (even though you are still a minor) so that s/he will not make you feel more embarrassed and stressed as you already are.
The question "are you sexually active at the moment" is a standard question for patients at any age. If you lied, the doctor will surely know, but if your mother is present, the doctor normally will not say anything in the presence of her. Instead, s/he might even ask your mother to leave the room for a few minutes (with a nurse present in the room of course), so that s/he could talk to answer your questions privately should you wish to.
However, if the doctor suspects any possibilities of an STD/STI, s/he might have a word with your mother too, possibly also in private and ask you to leave the room. This is just an approach toward alleviating any "drama" in his practice, between mother and daughter - should one occurs at all.
The important thing for you to remember is, that your mother loves you. No matter what. Her taking you to the doctor for birth-control implant is an indication that she understands youth and raging hormones so she wants you to be protected :-) However, this birth control is only for protection against unwanted or unplanned pregnancy (and not 100% guaranteed), it does not protect you from STDs/STIs. You need to remember this, so that you will always remember to use condoms to avoid STDs/STIs.
Good luck with the doctor's visit.
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