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writes:Hiyaaaa!!!It's almost end of March and I have the most agony test during the end of May and they determind whether I get in University or not (another word I'm doing my AS) It's bloody annoying because I've lost motivation and whenever I do a mini exam I always get a bad grade and whatever I do it just get throw back in my face!!! I try sooooo hard and yet my grades aren't going up!!!!I've literally been on monitoring which is like checking your process every week for almost 2 subjects out of 4 that I took and I feel like the pressure is too much that I'm gonna exploded like a grenade!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Time is running out and I've lost hope and I need to start cracking on revision/studying but I've lost motivation!!!I don't know what to do!!!!!????And thanks for those who reply!!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you guys sooo much for all your support and I'll defo check out the book since it's that good!Personally thanks to k c100 for providing me with the websites!!I love you guys! You rock and RULE! :)
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (24 March 2011):
 Just in time to post this for our readers in this age bracket. Well, it's true, the other important thing in life other than relationships is your studies which we can say almost determines what kind of future you have.
I agree with all the 3 aunts who posted their comments. Let me tell you from my own experience, striving to finish your education and going through the hardships of getting those grades will pay off many times in the future. Believe me, there is always a difference between a person who earned a degree from someone who did not. Ofcourse this does not apply to all and some may be exceptions but generally speaking, people who didn't screw up their education are most likely the persons to succeed in their lives professionaly and financially.
You know why? The experience itself you get in getting these education will train you to be a professional. And as the others have said earlier, I have the same experience just within my family and friends. We who have finished atleast our bachelors are far more successful than the rest who didn't.
During high school and college, I used to sneak out of our home to join my cousins in drinking spree. They spent their allowances on it and never came to class, they faked their grades to show to their parents. They were wealthy. But for my family, it was difficult and the more we didn't have money, the more my mom tried to send us to college. But I was too lazy to study. For a year or 2, i flunked my courses. Little by little I appreciated what she did to think that she is a widow coz how else can we get out of our situation if we don't do good in school?
To cut the story short, I finished my degree along with my siblings. And now my mother just sits at home and goes to the bank to withdraw her allowance from me. LOL So what happened with my cousins? They never came back to school, they got married and had different kinds odd of jobs just to live each day. It turns out their wealthy parents consumed all their money and everyone is blaming everyone. But whenever we get together, I always always pay for them to show how much they mean to me. But then, there was no meeting we don't look back to old times and now all they have is regrets.
They could afford education before but they screwed it up. Now they are sending their kids to school and boy you can see how good they guided them and supported them in their kids. Because now they know that education is the only treasure they can give to their children. Right motivation, patience and encouragement is the key to success. And they hope their kids will not be like them.
If I were you, think of the future as your motivation. Believe me, when you see your dreams coming true, the hardships you experience would feel like it never happened at all. That's how I feel now. So just do the tasks that you need to, little by little you will get there.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (24 March 2011):
 Put your hands up in the air if you agree that having a shitty job because you didn't study SUCKS!
*raised hand*
Do you know the way in which you learn concepts best?
Do you know the way in which you memorize things best?
What I mean is in class, in what way do you retain the most information. Is it through listening to the teacher speaking? Is it through reading what is written on the board? Is it through writing your own notes? Is it through drawing a visual mind map of ideas? Is it through flash/memory cards? Is it through making catchy little tunes for the information in your mind? Is it by being hands on and doing things practically?
Seriously, find out the ways that you learn best and then utilize them the most. It doesn't hurt to try all these methods, heck, it may even be a refreshing break from simply pounding the books with your head.
Make sure that you set yourself a 30 minute break every 60-120 minutes. You need to de-stress, I cannot emphasize that enough. Sometimes the best thing to do to help your study is to put it down, go for a run, do something you want to do and just completely turn off your brain. Don't feel guilty for having a break, just completely forget that you even have a test to do for those 30 minutes. Then once your break is over you'll be refreshed. Use these "guilt-free" breaks as motivation. Also don't forget to eat healthy and exercise when you can.
If your essays are letting you down, find and buy this book: "how you can write great essays and fly through your exams", I believe the new version is called "essay maker - for exams too" by Regina Berenyi. Its a short read and hopefully you can find it somewhere as an ebook, but it blew me away. I had one teacher come up and start asking questions about whether my essay was my own work as my writing changed dramatically almost overnight. Ended up getting the top score in the English exam for my final year at school at a snooty school, so that's one book that I'll never stop endorsing. I plan to have it engraved on my tombstone... "RIP. P.S. BUY THIS BOOK!!"
Other than that all I can say is good-luck :)
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (24 March 2011):
 I remember my A levels very well, the pressure is enormous so I do really feel for you. Everyone when they are studying feels like they want to give up at some point, at times it seems hopeless and like you will never do well so you might as well just stop.
But as you have said yourself - you need these grades to get into uni, so there is a reason for you to keep on going. Listen to this - I went to uni aged 18 (I am now 23) and one of my friends didnt go to uni so she has worked from the age of 18. I have been working for 2 and a half years now, whereas my friend has been working for nearly 6 years. In the last 2 and half years, despite the recession, my salary has gone up by £9,000. Whereas my friend still earns £4,000 less than me, despite working for double the amount of time I have been working. University REALLY pays off, I cant tell you enough how much easier it makes your working life in the future. All my friends that didnt go to uni are struggling, going from one job to another not really finding anything they enjoy. Whereas me and my friends who did go to uni are now incredibly succesful and happy in our jobs. Heck, one of my friends who is the same age as me and who went to uni at the same time as me is now on £30,000 per year!
Whenever you lose hope or feel de-motivated, think about what you want from your future and how you see your life turning out. Then think that these exams you are working for now are the first stepping stone to acheiving your dreams - that should keep you going!
Make sure you mix up your revision and take regular breaks, even try studying in different locations. I always found when the weather was nice that revising in the garden was good for me as I got some fresh air, a bit of a tan and was still learning! Or revising in a group and testing each other - that can be fun and is also good to discuss in a group things you are struggling with, as someone else in the group may get that bit and be able to explain it in a new way to you.
Also - set yourself something to look forward to when your exams are over. Are you going on holiday? Can you organise a day trip with your friends somewhere fun? Giving yourself something to look forward to when it is all over really helps, because you can see the light at the end of the tunnel.
And lastly - yes these exams are very important and you need to try as hard as you can otherwise you will regret it in the future. But if you dont quite get the grades you need there are other options, there is clearing through UCAS which gives people a second chance to get into extra spaces on courses that other people missed out on. There are a variety of options even if you dont get the grades so dont put too much pressure on yourself, these exams are not going to be the end of the world if they dont go exactly to plan.
Keep focused and dont give up, you have plenty of time left and you will make great progress between now and May if you just keep going. But dont stress yourself out too much, there will be other options if things dont go exactly to plan. All you can do is do your best - if you know deep down that you have put 100% effort into this and you could not have revised anymore if you tried - then that is all anyone can ask of you. As long as you know that there is nothing more you could have done, then you have done your best so well done. There is always time, and there is always hope - so never give up.
And maybe have a look at some of these websites for some hints and tips you might not have thought about before:
http://www.cambridgestudents.org.uk/examtime/revisiontips/
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/EducationAndLearning/14To19/Courseworkandexams/DG_10034950
http://www.s-cool.co.uk/
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): Relax. You say you're doing your AS. They do not determine whether you get into university or not, your A2s do.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 March 2011):
It sucks at the time - then when you do what I did and drop a few grades, you realize you should have worked a shit load harder!
Make sure you take breaks from studying, but really, REALLY keep it up or aged 23, you'll have to start over like me because you're expendable!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): I know exactly how you feel, and my life felt like it couldn't get any worse! I was basically failing everything in school, family espesh parents were on my case, friends were back stabbing at the same time, and I was on the rocks with my bf. but I managed to just take it step by step, and got through it. Looking back it's hard to remember how awful it was, because I am at uni now and this feels like way more work! (FYI Not trying to scare you, but the hard work they put you through at work really does help for uni, it's prepped me so much and all that is hard now is keeping up with the workload).
I know there isn't really anything I can say to take away the pressure, but keep going. Yes sometimes it gets thrown in your face, but overcoming the mistakes and dealing with the stress defines your strength and character, and you can be proud when you do your best. That is all you can do, try your very best. No matter what something good will come of it.
if you need to live under a rock on your own for a few weeks, do it, just study study study, it will pay off!
I wish you the best of luck!!
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