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writes:Help me!!!!! Idk what to do. I skipped my period last month so I took a pregnancy test yesterday and it came back positive I'm gonna get myself two other test just to make sure its not wrong but I'm so scared. I'm only 20 and me and my fiancee arnt ready. He suggest an abortion but I can't do that. I just don't believe in it. I'd rather keep it than kill it. I just don't know what to do. Were not ready but I can't bring myself to give it up for adoption either. Help me plz I don't know what to do I'm scared and worried.
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reader, Dsears1989 +, writes (16 September 2009):
Dsears1989 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone. I've decided to keep it. It'll be hard but I know we can do it.
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reader, mercy17  +, writes (14 September 2009):
 i understand what your going through, i myslef am pregnant too. When i first found out i ruled out abortion as soon as possible, but i did consider adoption. It seemed like a good idea at the time because im only 17 .. but i figured this happened for a reason , whether i was ready or not. So i decided to keep it and im awaiting his/her arrival :)
What i think you should do is discuss it with your partner, he is the parent too. If you two decide that your not ready, the best thing to do is put it up for adoption , it is a great option for most couples in your situation.
Whatever happens i wish you luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): Hi hunny and God bless you, just do what you know will be best for the baby. You could also help someone else with this God sent gift. Maybe this is your mission to give life for another if that is what you choose.
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reader, Dsears1989 +, writes (12 September 2009):
Dsears1989 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for the advice. Its much needed and appriciated.
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reader, danysbaby +, writes (11 September 2009):
every new mother is scared at first...but your like me, you dont wanna give it up, nor do you want an abortion, which is good, so I guess God had other ideas for you...I had my first child when I was 19 and would never change anything for the world..I love my children...even though with him I was alone.....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 September 2009):
 It seems instead of being scared you need to start taking responsibility for having gotten pregnant.
I understand that you feel abortion is not an option which leaves you with two other options, having the baby or adoption.
If you two don't feel emotional and financial ready for a child an open adoption might be a good alternative. In an open adoption you can still have contact with the child and in that way be a part of the child's life yet give the child a better start. ( When I say better I mean with a pair of parents who WANTS children, who are financially secure).
If adoption isn't an option either, well then there is just one option left. Have the baby and do your best.
We can't always plan everything in life, but we can make the best of everything.
None of the above options makes you a bad human being.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (9 September 2009):
 Hey, my mum had me when she was 19 and although there were certain things she missed out on at the time that she was pregnant she made up for it after I was born...she has qualifications, we live in a lovely home, she is still married to my dad...you just have to be determined to do what you want to and to find ways around things! I'm sure everything will work out for you in the end! X
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reader, linz09 +, writes (9 September 2009):
 You sound scared..but you know the option you are going to take is to keep the baby..you have only just found out which has come as a shock..you might not be ready, but whether you are ready or not you are pregnant,you're in a stable relationship with the babies father which is positive.
My good friend became pregant at twenty like you and now she has a lovely teenage girl and rather than mother and daughter they are more like sisters..where as I have no children and really wish I would have had children earlier.
These things happen and you both just have to step up to your responbilities, don't worry having a baby doesn't end your life...you can still have fun and enjoy things.
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