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writes:Why Doesnt my girl wanna have sex with me anymore? We use to have sex constantly, but until she got pregnant and cut down on the sex extra hard. She is now 6 month or so and i have seen nothing. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): Pregnancy is incredibly hard for a guy (depending on your girl). Your girl will have hormonal changes, become temporarily dumber, be cranky because she's always tired, and not be the same person to you. Then after the baby is born she will have postpartum depression. You have to be very forgiving during this time and keep telling yourself that this is just temporary. You will be stretched in supporting her and your needs may not get met. But then after a couple months with the baby she will return to normal and you will have a little you to call your own. Good luck.
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (26 June 2009):
 Lots of women do not want to have sex during their pregnancy ... some are affraid they will hurt the baby inside (which is not gonna happen) and some are just not happy about the way they look or how they feel.
You have to understand and try to be better boyfriend/husband to her and leave her alone. YOu need to wait until she is either in the mood or ready .. or unti baby is born.
I know its hard, but maybe you can talk to her about other things, that she could do, that would help you out ... you need to talk to her about these feelings and see what she thinks about it .
But dont freak out, its absolutely normal ....
You just have to wait and see ...
My sister didn't want to have sex for the last 6months into her pregnancy plus another 2 months after giving birth she couldnt evne think of sex .. .and her husband just patiently waited ... cause he loved her and there was nothing else to do ...
Good luck
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (26 June 2009):
 Hey my darling,
Pregnancy is a peculiar stage of life. Your hormones are all over the place and your sex drive fluctuates. Some women get super horny, some women become super reserved... it happens. Your body is changing, you're feeling bizarre... maybe she's uncomfortable with the shift in her body, maybe she's nervous about the baby, maybe she's feeling moody, maybe she needs something from you that you're not providing, maybe she needs to see a doctor. Since you didn't provide details, I can't assume that you're making a lot of effort. What are you doing to get her into the mood, to make her feel beautiful, to help her in the pregnancy? Are you supporting her 100%, giving her massages (bet her back is starting to hurt), running a bath, giving her kisses just because?
Maybe she needs to be romanced. Bottom line, though? I think it's really important that you have a conversation with your girlfriend. Talk to her about what she needs, and how she can feel better about sex. Don't be confrontational, use this as an opportunity to grow together as a couple and make her more comfortable in her pregnancy.
Good luck!
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reader, TheAgonyAunt  +, writes (26 June 2009):
 Maybe your girlfriend doesn't feel comfortable having sex whilst she is pregnant or sometimes pregnancy can make woman not as sexually aroused as they would normally, alot of hormone changes go on through pregnancy that cause moods to change.
But the best idea would be to talk to her about it..
Hope my advice helps
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