New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login245057 questions, 1084625 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

Pregnancy obsession on my DAUGHTER - NOOOOO!!!!

Tagged as: Family, Pregnancy, Troubled relationships<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (13 May 2012) 7 Answers - (Newest, 14 May 2012)
A female United States age , anonymous writes:

I caught my boyfriend of 5.5 yrs (really a part of my family), surprised him at his house(where I never go) jacking off to recent pictures of my newly pregnant daughter. He had gone into my computer and copied pictures that she had sent to ME of her big belly(tatsteful) but not to be loaded on FB. He had made a screensaver of over 20 pictures of her pregnant, belly shots, and he had even cropped out her husband from the pictures. I just about about threw up. He said that it was only a fantasy and that he fixated on my daughter because she looked so much like I did 30 yrs ago. (my daughter has been informed to stay away frm him) When I said ,"I have to go", he said , "well, I can see now that this is something that you're not going to be able to get over!" like I had to be the one whose unable to "forgive" Hah!! I told him that no matter what his fetish was - I CANNOT forget these 4 words -- SHE IS MY DAUGHTER!!!

I told him to get out, take all his crap, never want to see or hear from him again. I felt completely betrayed, sickened, and amazed that this

man whom I was ready to spend the rest of my life with, was so completely and sickenly depraved. I feel such relief at knowing that I found out now - this part of my life is closed (never to be reopened), and I can move forward in peace and serenity. Despite his pathetic excuses to justify his obsession w/ pregnant women - he crossed thee line when he chose MY DAUGHTER !! Good riddance to bad garbage!!!!

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (14 May 2012):

Honeypie agony auntEwww what a scumbag. One thing would be looking at old pictures of you but your pregnant daughter? Nasty fella.

<-- Rate this answer

A male reader, no nonsense Aidan United Kingdom +, writes (13 May 2012):

You don’t actually seem to be asking a question here but if you want to know whether you did the right thing or not, yes, you most certainly did! Not only were his actions totally unacceptable but he seems to have been totally unrepentant when you became aware of them. This is not something you should have to accept, if you were still with him I’d have advised you to get out now. I’m sure you feel hurt and betrayed, but look to the future and put this behind you. You’re going to be a grandmother, there’s so much to look forward to.

I wish you all the very best.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A male reader, TrancedRhythmEar Saudi Arabia +, writes (13 May 2012):

TrancedRhythmEar agony auntGood decision. That is absolutely disgusting of him.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, Starlights United Kingdom +, writes (13 May 2012):

Starlights agony auntYes good riddance indeed!!

You did the right thing. The man cant be trusted.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2012):

That is so creepy. Yeah, never talk to him again. If I were you, I'd move. But that isn't exactly something anyone can do right then and there so I would change your locks and advise your daughter to do the same. He's a creep and who knows how far he'll go.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (13 May 2012):

CindyCares agony aunt Exactly. Good riddance. I don't really know if there is anything else that any Aunt may add.

Perhaps you were writing because deep down you have the feeling that it might have been more politically correct to forgive him ? since it's a just a fantasy ? And a fetish,- that some people may found disturbing ( I do ) but then again it's not really his fault , because people can't choose what they are turned on by ?...

Maybe. I know that being judgemental is not good and I try ( in general, unsuccessfully,lol ) to curb my judgemental tendencies.But, when all is said and done- SHE IS YOUR DAUGHTER. That he was wanking over her pics, it's something that makes ME want to puke- imagine you !

Don't look back and don't have regrets. You did the right thing.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A male reader, MikeEa1 Australia +, writes (13 May 2012):

MikeEa1 agony auntyou poor thing. I'm a bit sensitive about issues like that too. I wouldn't forget. men are quite different in their sexuality than women and theres probably nothing to worry about but its too personal. I hope you move forward and find a better life.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "Pregnancy obsession on my DAUGHTER - NOOOOO!!!!"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.031241399999999!