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*loudysunshine
writes:Hi guys ne advice wud be appreciated. In short, i love my best guy friend and actually ended things over a year a ago with my ex of 5 years coz my feelings were so strong. My friend ad a gf but they drifted apart. We both have anxiety but are overcoming it and nw live together with a female friend. However, my guy is always hot and cold. We'll kiss and hug, and i dnt want to sound cliche, but we are made for each other, despite arguing nw and again, mostly due to frustration. When it comes dwn to it tho, i'll ask him wht we're doing and he says hes not ready for a relationship, and tht he doesnt want us to end up like him and his ex. Its so unfair tho, coz i feel stuck. I cant move on coz im crazy about him, but i dnt wanna wait around for nothing. He doesnt see other people and i dnt know whats stopping him. It hurts so much i barely think about it, which gives my anxiety a kick! ne advice?
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reader, cloudysunshine +, writes (9 March 2010):
cloudysunshine is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx 4 the advice :)
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (9 March 2010):
 He doesn't want to ruin the relationship he has with you. He values you as a friend and is afraid to lose that.
He is not ready. So don't push. Avoid hugging and kissing or any sexual contact. Give it sometime and ask if he wants to go further. Until then stay his friend.
I know it's hard but if you hug and kiss and act like a girlfriend then there is less of a chance of him committing to you....cause he already has you.
Good Luck!
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