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writes: *Reposted*No one answered the first time I posted this so...My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. I absolutely love him with all my heart. The only problem is that lately we've barely been talking. He works nights and I'm asleep when he's awake and vice versa. Right now we are living two hours away from each other so I miss him terribly. I feel like everytime I call him he'll only talk to me for ten or twenty minutes before getting off the phone. I really am feeling lonely and missing him but evertime I call, hoping to talk for at least an hour, he gets off the phone.I also am missing his face so have asked him repeatedly if he'll get on the webcam with me. He keeps refusing. I'm feeling really sad about all this.I feel like we don't talk anymore and when we do talk there are long silences and repeated words. I don't know how to make this better. I love him very much but am feeling he's too busy to talk with me.When I call he says he is missing me also but if he's missing me why does he get off the phone so quick? Today I called and woke him up. It was 7 pm so I figured he would have been awake. We talked for a few minutes and I could tell he was falling asleep. I said we could get of if he wanted. He said he was fine but then two minutes later he said bye? Did I miss something? I was suprised and disappointed when he hung up. We talked for about ten minutes. Reply to this Question
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reader, keishaoc09  +, writes (28 July 2010):
awww hun i feel ur pain..its crazy because sometimes i go through that...my boyfriend works nights and we sometimes goes days without talking...i makes me sad to..(just like yesterday!!) but in your case i would say that you should probaly text him or send him a long email and tell him how u feel..or even right him a letter.....or maybe you can arrange a nice date for you guys and tell...but on the date make sure yall get real intimate..well a date u would never forget!
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reader, almc  +, writes (28 July 2010):
There is a few things I see from this, he seems so tired, and when you cal him and he let's you go few mins later, what I think of that he wants to talk to you but he is soo tired at the same time, but does he not call you ? Do you guy text each other?
Sorry to think this one but maybe there is another girl?sorry to bring it up, hope you work everything out.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (28 July 2010):
 I really don't recall seeing your first post.
However, you two obviously have a real schedule conflict if he works nights, and his job leaves him very tired when his work"day" ends.
But apart from the schedule, he seems to have lost the interest in your relationship he once had. I notice you seem to initiate most of the calls. Perhaps you could cut back on phoning him and see if he contacts you. Perhaps if he feels less pressure to chat when he's tired, and can call when he feeling more refreshed, he will.
But if he does not, you might need to consider having a serious talk with him - perhaps via email if he doesn't stay on the phone very long and lay out for him your feelings about this. Then see what happens and take it from there.
Hope you can resolve it between you!
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