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writes: I have really small breasts and I feel insecure. I admit a bit of it is my own fault for letting it get to me, but a lot of people (especially insensitive guys) have commented negatively about this fact - also with the media and porn that men like, it's difficult NOT TO feel insecure! I mean even going to every newsstand is a pain when you see nothing but cleavage on both men's and women's magazines! But mostly men's especially since they have nude women, even nude women hugging each other emphasizing their huge breasts. So is it only my fault? I don't think so.It's a given that guys like bigger breasts better. Not huge of course, but from what I've noticed they seem to prefer sizes D to E better. I am FAR smaller than that. Really, really smaller and I always feel bad because all the guys I've dated preferred big and hey, I know that everyone's entitled to their preferences but I can't help feeling like second best. They say that small breasts aren't bad, but that larger is better. It sucks, it hurts. What can I do? Men also say they hate implants; they look nice, yes, but they feel awful.Seems like a no win, especially since while I'm not fat, I have cellulite over my other bits. I mean, I store all my fat in my lower regions, which means huge thighs, even at 130 lbs, riddled with cellulite. My butt is also full of cellulite. And even if I went down 15 lbs, I'd still have the damn thing. So there's not "emphasizing the other assets" either. What can I do? I feel so depressed! I'm newly single and I don't feel like dating because I just feel damn unattractive compared to other women with bigger breasts, or just because guys always fantasize about this perfect women and it sucks. Don't tell me to just be confident because it won't change the fact that men simply prefer big breasts better.Oh and before anyone comments on penis size, it's not the same because men don't walk around in tight pants, furthermore too big hurts anyway, bald guys can be very hot (Bruce Willis, Taye Diggs, etc), as can be short guys (most women are shorter than men anyway), too muscular is considered gross by most women, and all men can get muscle anyway if they go to the gym. So, no, it's not the same!! And I'm not really shallow, so there you go, I've dated all types of guys and was always perfectly happy with how they looked, no preferences over this or that about them. I simply allow myself to enjoy a wide variety, it's better that way. There are no "this is better than that" in my case!
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reader, teapot236  +, writes (30 July 2010):
This will be short and sweet. Don't worry about what people say and every morning you get up, look in the mirror and say I AM BEAUTIFIL! I LOVE ME FOR ME AND I DON'T CARE WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS OR SAY. Love you for you. Learn to accept you for you because if you don't other's want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): Be happy with your size! I had implants put in a couple of years ago and I HATE them! I went from a size A to a DD.There are so many shirts I cant wear and I actually envy girls with natural breasts. They are heavy and get in the way.I used to work at hooters and the majority of the girls were A-B size. I used to feel how you feel..I hated my small boobs! Now I would give anything to have them back.It sounds like you have a booty which many girls envy including myself.Im a total flat pancake!The most attractive trait you can have to a guy is confidence.Act like your the shiznitz and he'll be a believer.Trust me! Im 5'6 and 136 lbs..and there are guys everywhere! good luck
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 July 2010):
 The boobs in porns are fake, and the boobs in magazines are for most part photoshopped.
Go buy yourself a push up bra and a tight top with cleavage and take a look in the mirror. I think that will help you more than any advice.
Plus, small breasts are sexy too, if you know how to dress right. You can for example wear gorgeous tops and dresses without a hideous bra to spoil it. And you can run without it feeling like they are about to bounce off you. And when you grow old they wont be dingling on your belly.
As a small reminder: Paris Hilton has tiny breasts: http://www.thequoteblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/07/paris-hilton-digging.jpg
Beyonce has small breasts too: http://www3.timeoutny.com/newyork/thevolume/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/beyonce.jpg
Shakira as well: http://www.thadoghouse.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/10/shakira.jpg
Keira Knightley: http://www.binhuang.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/keira-knightley.jpg
Jeez, but there women are hot though, right?? What you see in pictures of them is push up bras, tight dresses, and believe it or not many women put makeup on their breasts to give them a look of more cleavage:
http://www.sheknows.com/articles/803403/make-your-breasts-look-bigger-enhance-your-cleavage-with-makeup
Try it out and enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): yeah i know exactly how you feel. I dont know how to help. My fiance says 'i love your boobs best, but i love boobs' and he always has pictures of girls with big boobs. Mostly fake. Yet he doesnt want me to get a boob job. I dont know how to accept myself yet, so im curious to see others answers as well to see if it helps. Some days i feel better about myself, and he always plays with my boobs. I know he likes to. But i also think he'd like them more if they were bigger. He says otherwise. I find wearing nice bra that fits well makes me feel better, even if it isn't padded, i just feel a bit sexier. But i dont know how to change my opinion on what guys prefer to think that mine are ok. Sorry i cant be of any help, but you're not the only one who feels that way. Good luck
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (28 July 2010):
 Boobs are boobs, we want to see them all...
My ex had this same insecurity and I tried everything to help her, but really you have to change your own attitude and learn to love yourself... really, what other option is there? Get a boob job? Stuff that, I see girls at the club with fake boobs and that's an instant turnoff for me because you already know that she was so unhappy with what god gave her that she had to spend a crap load of money to cut herself up.... yeh, that's a girl I want to get to know... not.
(no disrespect to those who have implants, I just personally find girls that love themselves for what they've got and who you are is WAY more attractive to me than implants)
Anyhoo.. Best of luck :)
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reader, luvingme21 +, writes (28 July 2010):
 Wow, I know how you feel. And I'm sorry because there is nothing I can say or do to make you feel better about your cup size. Every female has something that their insecure about, and it turns out that its your boobs. Well at least on the brightside, most females with real big boobs..as the years go by they become saggy. I know what guys say can be hurtful.
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