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writes:Am i crazy?im 16 and do have a boyfriend of almost a year and a half. this may sound crazy but we have spoken about SOMEDAY getting married, when we're about 22, 23.on saturday i went to a wedding and since then [today is tuesday] i have literally been obsessed with getting married. iv thought about where i would like to get married, how many guests, even thought of the food. iv been looking on bridal sites at wedding dresses, i have thought about a colour scheme and have thought about the music i want played. iv thought about seating plans and table decorations, who my maid of honour will be and who my bridesmaids will be. slowly but surely i am begining to plan my wedding, despite i am only 16 and not even ENGAGED, and my question is, have i gone crazy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): THANKS FOR ALL THE ANSWERS !! :D
youv made me feel so much better, i thought i was going crazy, no joke !!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): I think it's a myth that all girls fantasize about their weddings. I didn't. I just wanted mine to be over with. What you're dreaming about is the idea of having this one, special day when you get to be centre of attention and live like a fairy tale princess. I bet nowhere in your fantasies is sitting down with the fiance and discussing important things before you tie the knot (is the boyfriend even in the picture?). The truth is nobody is going to fantasize about budgetting, organising birth control, dividing up housework, mortgage payments etc etc which is what a real marriage is like for the rest of your life. You're a teenage girl who likes to think about pretty dresses, makeup and parties. You're not alone in that. You've just chosen to focus on the wedding thing. As you get older, you'll sober up a little and hopefully the stuff like seating arrangements and flowers will be fun extras, and not the main deal.
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reader, shortstuff4789  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 no you havent gone crazy i have been planning my wedding for 2 years now. i totally know how you feel. i will have been with my man for 3 year in a couple of months.and i have been planning since 6 months after we started dating. dont feel weird about it . its very fun! i have all my stuff picked out too and the cool thing is if i find something new i can change it and fit new things in ! have fun! and dont worry .
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reader, MummyCaz +, writes (17 February 2009):
Aww dont listen to the first person that posted, i got with my boyfriend when we were 15, im now 21 and engaged to him with 2 gorgeous baby boys. You can think about these things, as long as you know it will be a while before it all happens, obviously you have got money to think about and as you are still young you should take it slowly but one day it may happen and you can use your great plans then! :)
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (17 February 2009):
 omg hahai've recently been doing the same!Thinking about my dress and a nice horse and cart and church and stuff!Naa it's just normal stuff, as long as you don't start making proper plans then its fine!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 February 2009):
 Naw it's typical teenage girl stuff. Dropping into the fantasy world is great for a short visit, just don't take up permanent residence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): hey there, i think it's pretty sweet that u're optimistic bout ur relationship wif ur bf. Bt dear, sorry to be the one who bursts ur happy bubble, bt more often that not, relationships at this age will not last. My advice to you, is just live at the present, dont plan ahead too much, just enjoy ur time with him, enjoy the sweet, innocent love that u hav now with ur bf. And whatever happens, happens. IF things between u 2 do work out, then congrats on ur engagement when it comes, if it doesn't than at least u won't be too hurt cause trust me, making someone ur all and imagining forever love with someone will only shatter u when things dont work out.
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