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writes:Heya! I was just wondering about some help for peer pressure. Basically I'm almost 18, but I'm still a virgin when all of my friends are not. I'm getting a bit sick of every conversation I have with my friends having something to do with sex as it makes me feel a little bit awkward.I've explained to my mates that I don't want to have my first time until I'm in a relationship with someone I trust,but the more they talk about their first times (all of them consisiting of guys/girls they met in night clubs) the more old fashioned and frigid I feel. I've done stuff with guys for sure, but I've said no to sex multiple times. Is this weird for an 18 year old girl??! I just don't really want to get left behind but then again I want to stick to my guns...Any advice would be greatly appreciated!x
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (11 November 2011):
 Hi there! I only lost my virginity to my boyfriend of almost a year, in july, just after my 20th birthday.
So please don't feel alone. I have been in your shoes. It's not easy. But the main thing you need to do is stay strong!! Don't listen to what other people have to say. They are not you, and they do not know how your mind and heart work, so don't let them decide for you.
You will feel A LOT worse about yourself if you were to actually go out to a club and do it with some random, because you know in your heart that's not what you want.
Keep up the good fight!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2011): Dnt let them get to you with their conversations of sex, save ur virginity for when you really fall in love, let me tell u I met the most wonderful man when I was 21 and lost my virginity to him when I was 23 the most amazing feeling knowing its with a person u really love, now 8 yrs later were still together, n I'm proud to say he's the only man ive been with! So plz do wait, ur still young its ur life ur body not theres...good luck :)
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reader, moon river +, writes (10 November 2011):
 if you are questioning why your doing this then are you really committed to it?
i would say what you are doing is noble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2011): You are right to wait till its right for you. Do not feel peer pressure. You are not alone, even if in your friends group most seem experienced in these things. Actually there are boys out there in the same boat, fearfully of friends reactions. Infact, you sometimes find that those doing the confident talking actually haven't done it themselves either!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2011): I am right around the age of you, im 24 and trust me I will say don't give up what's important to you until you meet someone worth giving it up too because regardless of what your friends say you will remember that moment for the rest of your life. I gave up my virginity at 16 and was with that guy for 4.5 years. I don't regret it for a moment even though I am not with that guy anymore, I'm still good friends with him because it was a moment we shared him being a virgin at the time too. Let it be with someone worthy of you and not some random guy you meet at a club.
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reader, Allic  +, writes (10 November 2011):
You shouldnt do it. if u do things that u dont want to do will only make u unhappy, and u will definatley regret it.
so just stick to ur guns , since ur 18 u will get ur first one soon with some one u want. and trust me u wont left behind.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (10 November 2011):
 Stick to your guns, as you say. Do not do what you are uncomfortable doing. A little hanky-panky may be ok, but not beyond your comfort level. I'm proud of you for your degree of resistance and higher level of morals, and be assured that I'm no prude, nor was I so restrained in my youth. Those with so much less resistance may regret, while you will eventually, and more likely, be much happier with your life choices.
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reader, LadyIris +, writes (10 November 2011):
 Dont be the slightest bit ashamed, you are a stronger woman than all of your friends you have pride in yourself and need to be respected. Im a 16 year old girl who has not had sex ethier and i get down about it too but who doesnt. Like everyone else we are curious of things we have not tried and want to be like every one else. But dont ever forget you are you and they are them you stick to what you believe in. You will find some one who will make this wait worth it and make it special for your first time. :)
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reader, TrinityHunter +, writes (10 November 2011):
 Yu should definatly keep yur virginity!!! That is something so dear and precious, and deserves to be kept. I'm only 14 but it still doesn't change the fact that it hurts me to hear everyone else talk about sex when I can't tell them I've done it. I have a purity ring and there's been so many times that I was willing to break it but I second guessed myself and SO glad I did. Purity means so much to me and it really displays self-respect in my eyes. Don't let these things get yu down...keep yur virginity until it's time!!!
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