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writes:Dear Cupid, From Monday- Thursday,the job where my fiance works allows him 3 breaks: 10 am (10 or 15 minutes), 12 pm (Lunch; 30 minutes), and 3 pm (15 minutes). Then on Friday's, he gets off at 11:30 am and his break is at 9:30 am (10 or 15 minutes). Okay my question is: whenever he calls me on his breaks, or I call him... he never seems to really wanna talk to me. I dont know. And its only men that work there. The boss wont hire women. But I'll call him on his break or he'll call me and we'll talk for usually a second or two.Sometimes we'll talk for like a couple minutes, but thats it.If he's on lunch, he'll call me and like I said we'll talk for a second or so, then he'll say "baby, im getting ready to eat. if i have time when I finish, I'll call u back." But it just makes me feel bad.When we first started talking, he used to talk to me the whole time during his break. Now, I dont know. It makes me feel awkward.Sometimes when I call him, I'll tell him somthing or I'll ask him something like "hows your day going"? and he'll cut me off or he'll answer quickly and rush off the phone. Today,when he called me at 3 pm, he just jokingly told me to "get off the Internet", he didnt say hey, how are you, or anything. Then he just rushed to get off the phone. And I said his name, then he said... "What? I only have 15 minutes." Then I said "okay". Any opinions or advice is greatly appreciated!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): You know breaks don't seem long,maybe he just wants to use the toilet or maybe eat...15min go really quick you know! I should know this!
Well my boyfriend usually calls after work as I know during the day he is busy and works long hours. Sometimes we talk for abit then I let him sleep! Just be patient and he will call when he is not busy...don't worry yourself too much as your only causing yourself heartache!
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reader, ImJustTrinity  +, writes (25 January 2010):
I agree with xlaurenx
I used to talk to my boyfriend at every chance i got, sometimes for hours at a time.
Now i call him for a few minutes, and call him for an hour at most when i get home.
It's not that i dont love him any less. Its just that we've settled into normality. We don't have to be in each others pockets to be happy with each other.
Like you, i only go to his house on the weekend, and we have more to talk about and discuss because we're not constantly talking.
This might be good for your relationship, it gives you both some time to yourselves.
Hope this has helped.
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reader, lostlove76 +, writes (25 January 2010):
I am sorry but I don't agree with the comment from caringguy. Even if he is around other guys if his emotions are the same for you there is no reason he shouldnt express them. That's the problem however the ones that are teasing and making fun are probably hoping and wishing that they could be in his position. Address your concerns and let him know how you feel about it to see how he responds then handle the matter appropriately. Not to be hasty but if you behaved this way I can personally guarantee that he would not be happy either.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 January 2010):
Don't worry. This isn't as serious as it seems. Either he's busy, or he's being teased about talking to you by his male colleagues. Maybe just say to him you miss how you both used to talk a lot and see what he has to say about it. He might just say it's hard given that he's surrounded by guys who probably laugh at him afterwards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): Hi
My boyfriend and I used to talk on our lunch breaks over the phone for the whole hour when we were first going out but we both started to think that it was actually unnessesary to spend the whole time talking when we'd see each other anyway!
Your boyfriend would probably like to have a rest in the little breaks he gets and also have a laugh with the guys he works with. Its not that he doesn't want to talk to you but it is kind of unsociable to spend every break every day sitting away from all your work colleagues chatting on the phone. He probably wants to just get to know the blokes he works with and also be sociable.
Being too wrapped up with each other isn't healthy, you both need time apart to be with other people and talk to other people. Calling him just because its his break can become a habit, its nicer to call each other because you genuinely want to say "hi" or "i love you", day in day out it can become a bit forced
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe used to not act this way. I never rush to get off the phone with him,even when I was working. When I was working, I called him on all my breaks and talked to him during the entirety of my break(s). Even when he gets home,he'll eat before he calls me. It's like he barely has time for me anymore other than on the weekend, when I go to his house.
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