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*txi
writes:She now feels sickened to look back on our relationship. And whilst this hurts I can appreciate why this is.Being physically intimate with someone means a lot to her, and being her first and then it ending like that has affected her.Because neither of us have talked about what went wrong we both just have confused memories and emotional fallout about it and I think it's making her doubt everything that ever happened before, kind of tarnishing the memories. And because she now can't remember why we fell in love she feels sickened to look back at what happened.So I want to talk to her, a brief chat where we can actually ask eachother about the parts that we found confusing and where we both think it went wrong. We never spoke about how we were feeling when we were together so I feel that it really would help. I understand that it wont bring me and her on speaking terms again, but it would mean that the memories aren't so sour for both of us. Plus it would help me move on.I just wonder what the best way to to this is. I have drafted this quick email and I wondered if you could give me some advice on maybe improving it or a better way to ask her."I really do loathe to ask anything of you right now, but it would mean a lot to me if we could have one last talk before we properly part ways. It would help me move on, and I think it would be good for both of us.You want to forget about it, and I respect that, but how you feel about me at the moment might never really go away. All of the stress and emotional fallout has tarnished everything that ever went on, and it could leave you regretting it all for a good long while.Looking back at what happened, it's just confusing. A collection of scattered emotions and uncertainty. If we could just try straightening out a few of the loose ends it would make me, and I'm sure you, feel a lot better.At least consider it, and even if it's a no please let me know that you got this message.All the best, Thank you."
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reader, Itxi +, writes (13 December 2010):
Itxi is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou, but she hasn't replied.
Maybe in another few months we'll be able to talk again but having her not reply to me like that, well I don't know if I do want to talk to her anymore.
Thankyou both for the advice though, I did change the line to what you suggested, I think it did improve it. :)
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (13 December 2010):
 Good luck I hope everything works out for you.
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reader, Itxi +, writes (10 December 2010):
Itxi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks people. I sent her the email a few hours ago.
To be honest I'm not even expecting a reply, things just turned sour even though we never did anything to hurt eachother. It's odd.
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reader, Adorskable +, writes (10 December 2010):
I think the e-mail is perfect. You want to have closure which is perfectly normal. You might want to add a little bit more to the email and talk about your feelings because you only know for sure how you feel.
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (10 December 2010):
I really like your lettter. It's the type of sincerity that will get you everywhere.
I might change this line
it could leave you regretting it all for a good long while.
To: It could leave both of us regretting....
(You don't want to tell her how she will be feeling later but also share her pain.)
But besides that, the letter looks great. Good luck!
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