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41-50,
*illow979
writes:Ok, so this is the situation so far. I met my now ex colleague while we working together. At that time I was engaged, and one day we were having a chat and he dropped in the conversation that all the guys on our team were talking about which girl in our office they found most attractive - when I asked him who his was, he sort of blushed and said 'you'. I left that job ages ago now and since then we've seen each other a few times. We've always got on brilliantly, always have a laugh and there's always a bit of harmless flirting.I have since broken up with my ex and we are planning to go out for drinks together. He still tells me that he's always found me attractive, and when he messages me it always starts with 'hey sexy' or 'hey gorgeous'. Asked a friend of mine if he is seeing anyone and he is, but apparently it's nothing that serious and they haven't slept together yet.So I'm confused with the mixed sisignals. Is it worth giving it a go or am I reading way too much into it? Wouldn't want to ruin thfriendship or make things awkward.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 December 2010):
 Take the risk. You don't call your friends attractive and sexy unless you think of them in other ways than pure friendship.... Take a small step at the time if you are unsure about mixed signals.
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (10 December 2010):
If it's not serious with this other girl than this is no problem.
In terms of the friendship part, why would you take a chance of missing Mr. Right? You are so lucky to have a good friend who also finds you so attractive.
And if you're good friends before you date, there's a good chance you'll stay friends if things don't work out anyways. That's the way it happened for me after 23.
It's a much bigger risk not to this than to do it! That's the way I see it, anyways.
Go for it and don't look back! Good luck!
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