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writes:I have a really good friend that lives in another state. Overall he is a really good guy and his birthday was a few months ago. I sent him a "birthday" package with a few items. I also made sure to wish him a Happy Birthday as well on his special day. He seemed to like what I got him and everything, so all seemed to be fairly good.Flash forward to my birthday recently. He did send me his own birthday package - and I am grateful for the cute items that he sent. However leading up to it he was in a bit of a rush to send it out and I found out it was because he thought my birthday was several days earlier than what it is. Eh, not the biggest deal in the world, but whatever. I let him know the actual date though.The thing that kind of hurt my feelings after that is when it was my actual birthday, he did not acknowledge it. No text. No phone call. Nothing. I really was hoping he might reach out to me and wish me a Happy Birthday, but did not.Do I have a right to be annoyed with him, or am I simply overreacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2013): When I read this questing I didn't look at the age range and I though it was like a 15-17 year old posting it NOT 26-29 year old.
Overreaction! Absolutely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Got Issues - yes I really do like this guy as something more than a friend, which maybe playing a factor in my reaction.
And I should clarify that I am EXTREMELY grateful for what he sent. All I was trying to get at was that it would have been nice to also have gotten a simple Happy Birthday on the actual day too. I guess I figured because I do it.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (26 June 2013):
 He didn't forget you by any means..he took the time to pick out presents for you, package them up and mail it to you. Many women write on here wishing their guy would just give them a card or wish them a happy birthday! He did care enough to make the effort so yes, I think you're over reacting. He should get bonus points for sending it early rather than later, to be honest...LOL
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 June 2013):
 Way over reacting. You had already got a birthday package , accompanied , I suppose , by a birthday wishes card ,phone or other message ( otherwise, how would you have known whom the gift was from ). So you had already got your birthday wishes, although not on the exact day- how many birthday wishes do you want ???
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (26 June 2013):
Overreacting. It's nice that he was actually thoughtful enough to return the gesture near or around your birthday, and quite honestly, people are busy and forget! I've forgotten very good friends' birthdays and remembered days later and either texted or called them to tell them happy belated birthday! It happens, people aren't perfect, but at least some of them try.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (26 June 2013):
 He did a lot more than most of my (especially male) friends usually do for my birthday. And he did actually acknowledge your birthday, by buying you gifts and going to the trouble of sending them to you. That's really nice.
May I ask, do you perhaps like him as more than a friend, if this bothers you so much?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 June 2013):
 I have to agree with C. Grant.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 June 2013):
 He did send you a birthday package with items he selected for you. I would choose to focus on the good thoughts and effort and affection he put into that and not get too wound up that he couldn't remember the actual day.
I agree with C. Grant that making a fuss about birthdays is really more for children.
I have one friend who diligently remembers every birthday of every person she is friends with. It's exhausting, actually, she is sending out a card or note just about every day. At a certain point, it's more an exercise in calendar date keeping. And she does realize that she won't have her birthday remembered by all the people she has on her birthday calendar.
I would let this go. If you choose to hold a grudge here then maybe it's a sign that you are overdoing the tokens of friendship.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (26 June 2013):
 Personally I think it's only appropriate to make a fuss about birthdays for children. It's nice if friends remember it, but hardly a deal-breaker. At your age? He got you a gift at approximately the right time -- that's pretty good.
Yes, you're overreacting.
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